The older one is only 13. And posing for the photos with signs was the mother's idea, she wanted to make it into a "teachable moment." If the mother wanted to incorporate her daughters' recollections into an article or something, that would still be somewhat appropriative, but it wouldn't be using her daughters'…

The article says they are from Charlottesville, VA. I really have no problem believing that her daughters have been told these things (either in that area, or anywhere else, frankly).

Yuna's own management has requested that she be referred to in the media as "Yuna Kim" (first name/last name), not in the Korean style. But I still see her referred to as "Kim Yu-na" all over the place, including broadcasts. As for the pronunciation of her name—yes, it's because the Romanization of her name is…

They're probably confused because they're assuming that your choice of wife is an extension of your "interest in X [Asian country]" and they're wondering why she doesn't match your hobbies. Obnoxious. I mean, there are some men (and women) who do in fact view their Asian partners this way, but it's unfair and…

I really don’t buy the defense of eyelid surgery on the basis that it makes it easier to apply makeup. For sure, the vast majority of makeup tutorials are designed for double-lidded eyes, but there are ways to apply makeup for monolids, and they should be more widely promoted and communicated. One shouldn't need to…

I think the narcissism is more about the constant focus on the idea that the plastic surgery phenomenon is chiefly about trying to look like/be like white people, when it is actually much more about obtaining social capital in an Asian context. As I said earlier, it’s entirely possible to locate Asian individuals who…

I don’t really understand that, either. Perhaps it was inevitable that Mia could no longer embrace Soon-Yi, but why the hell would Andre Previn cast her out? His only role was as Soon-Yi's father; he wasn’t betrayed in any way. Also, the narrative at the time was that Soon-Yi was a victimized child, so why would he…

The modern Asian beauty standard is one that is informed in part by European influences. This is undeniable. I think that when Asians try to argue that their beauty standard derives solely from Asian tradition, I think it's less that they are "too embarrassed to admit" western influence than it is that almost everyone…

I worry about her too, but I still think it's kind of scummy to use photos of that little girl (and this isn't the only place I've seen it) with Allen in the context of these types of articles. Using her image to imply that she's being abused, or that she's Soon-Yi-in-training (which they never do with the white…

That website is incorrect. Soon-Yi would have been approximately 20 years old in 1992.

Shane is the one who knocked up Spike in the original series, later to drop acid and fall off a bridge. Wheels is the one who killed someone in a DUI in the insane series finale (after his own parents had been killed by a drunk driver, SMH).

The usage of "first generation" and "second generation" varies; there isn't really a consensus. For example, Korean Americans usually refer to the adults who immigrated here as "first generation" and their US-born children as "second generation," as well as utilizing a curious term, "1.5 generation" to refer to…

Are you referring to a really specific Korean social context? Because you're saying some things here that are very dubious from an American standpoint. I do believe that people should be self-reflective and self-critical, but I can't agree that Asian female/white male couples should be deemed "problematic" by…

One reason I'm continually dissatisfied with conversations about "Asian fetishes" is that a lot of women assume that "men with fetishes" are a discrete category, and that if you eliminate them from your dating pool, you're home free. I've known many Asian women who refuse to date any non-Asian man who has ever dated…

I really like the perspective you are bringing to this discussion. Seriously, it's refreshing.

White/Latino intermarriage rates are comparable to White/Asian intermarriage rates. I suspect that people think that white male/Asian female couples are way more predominant than they are, because they visually stick out more.

For Asian women who specifically seek out white men, their attitudes and actions don't have an impact on white men the same way Asian fetishists' actions and attitudes will have an impact on Asian women. White men aren't circumscribed in popular Western culture by a small set of racial and sexual stereotypes the way…

No, because I explained that my perspective is coming out of concern rather than condemnation. You've made this "white men get a bad rap when it comes to Asian fetishes but the fetishizing goes both ways" comment on numerous articles, so yeah, it definitely seems like this is something that specifically bugs you, for…

Asian women don't play a role in the "yellow fever phenomenon." I think what you mean to say is that Asian women play a role in the prevalence of Asian female-white male couples. "Yellow fever" isn't simply about the popularity of Asian women, it refers specifically to a popular set of racist and sexist stereotypes…

I also don't think it's necessarily problematic to ask Asian women who primarily or exclusively date white men to be more reflective about their relationship choices. That's what I find frustrating about conversations on "Asian fetishes," a lot of Asian women who are obsessed with the topic seem to have no interest in…