Which is why it's unacceptable to say, e.g., if you don't want your kid exposed to evolution, you should just take her out of biology. There are great reasons to teach evolution in a biology class, the fact that parents have the option of home-schooling their kids if they don't like evolution is not one of them.

The parents want their children to learn about sex the way God intended. On the internet.

I dunno what the teaching materials actually look like. However considering that much of the available mainstream porn jumps straight to descriptions like "extreme anal stretching pussy punishment gang bang", well teens might benefit from some frank discussion of kink and consent so they don't think it's just de rigur…

I did talk to my son about it at nine or ten, because he came home from school saying his friend had shown him something "weird" on his phone. When I asked what it was, he said, "There was a man putting his balls in a lady's mouth."

no, sex ed doesn't need a light touch. Don't make sex mysterious, vague, and therefore shameful. Just tell kids about sex honestly , and earlier than 9th grade.

I live in Fremont, and must note that we have a LOT of typically batshit xtians (and muslims) for whom sex-positivity is so far off their charts that they can't even see the universe it's in. This is pearl-clutching and denial at its finest, and I want the schools to keep the book just to force the fucking religious…

I would prefer my kids learn how to be a superfreak at school and not on the streets the way we all had to.

My 7th and 8th grade sex ed was way more comprehensive than that, and I credit that for instilling me with a healthy view towards adult sex. Very sex-positive, lots of consent, boundaries, "sex is for both people," how to say no to something you don't want to do, etc. They taught us in pretty good detail about various…

I would star this 10000 times. He's a dad. He's very let's-cut-the-bullshit when talking about sex and sexual mores.

Sometimes people surprise you.

eh, I've seen it both ways. I think a lot of brides falter to the pressure of having the kind of wedding you're "supposed" to have. That's why I'm always happy to see someone having the kind of wedding THEY want, not the kind of wedding they're supposed to have. I have friends getting married soon and their invite…

I'm getting married in... shit, less than three months, and I like to think I'm quite reasonable. My take on the matter has always been that everyone else is doing me a favor. Literally nobody else on the face of the planet cares about my wedding as much as I do, and the people who show up anyway - never mind the ones…

It really makes me wonder what makes people demonize sex? I'm all for a set of values and setting standards for oneself, but what makes people actually hate sex and prevent the young from enjoying it responsibly? It can't be just religion.

Obviously, sex ed for ninth graders requires a fairly light touch.

I've said it a million times today. Think about it for a second. If you're teaching about sex, you have to cover masturbation. If you're teaching about masturbation, you should mention that fantasy is a perfectly normal and healthy part of it. It's a paragraph, not a how-to shibari manual.

Pretty much. I find women that are about to get married suddenly get a very high opinion of themselves. Like "You should be fucking lucky that I invited you to my mediocre wedding with no open bar". Ahahahaha. No thanks, I can think of 100 things better than adding to Bridezilla's ego.

If you're going to talk about sex, you have to talk about masturbation. If you're going to talk about masturbation, you have to talk about fantasy. If people are too squeamish to talk about this with their children, the kids should have access to the information elsewhere - where the information is accurate (not porn).

I read somewhere that the time to talk to your children about internet porn is about 7 or 8 years old. So I'm pretty sure that my 14 they have moved beyond 'oops I saw some adult stuff, now I'm curious' to 'I really wonder what BDSM is, let me google that'.

9th graders shouldn't know about bondage, but listening to Rihanna is obviously fine.

After an article on Jezebel that left me with more questions than answers I finally picked up the book "Harmful to Minors". While its a little outdated it seems to be one of the few books that has directly tackled the subject of the sexuality of minors. The book and articles like this definitely expose my own biases…