See I was thinking we could see each other once a month and I was kind of okay with that. But at this point it’s not even looking like it will be that much. The next time we’re hoping to see each other is in 6 weeks, which, yuck. He’s particularly busy right now and it should get better at the end of this year but…

So you immediately moved in with him after 2 years of LDR (i.e. you never lived separately in the same city)? Because that’s what I’m afraid of.. like he’ll finish his PhD and get a job somewhere and then I’ll find a job wherever he gets one, and then we’ll move in together, but after only seeing each other for a few…

Would love advice, and/or your favorite songs/movies/whatever about long distance relationships.

SAME

I did that too and I got SCOTT FUCKING WALKER *pukes*

Ah, Madison might be a bit too pricey then. My apartment is 2 miles from the Capitol (center of downtown) and is very nice and I pay $794/month which includes underground parking. And bus passes are around $55/month unless your employer will pay for it (which many of them do especially if they are downtown). I’m…

Oh my gosh I’m in a somewhat similar situation. I’m “seeing” a guy who lives 6 hours away which doesn’t seem THAT far but he’s a PhD student and works in the lab literally every day so he can’t really ever get away to come see me and I have a limited # of vacation days and don’t want to put a zillion miles on my car…

I have not been to Lincoln, but have you considered Madison, WI?? I live here and a few of my friends and I are similar to you — love (good) country music, love the outdoors and fishing, hiking, and camping. Madison is a great liberal city with lots of artsy/crafty people and stores, but also has TONS to offer in…

I just got my first IUD 4 weeks ago! I got Skyla. I sympathize with EVERYthing you’re experiencing. It hurt like a bitch when she measured my uterus and inserted it. I was crampy for 1-2 weeks but it was pretty mild. I’m STILL spotting which has been very annoying wearing a panty liner every day (or forgetting and…

Thank you for sticking up for us! I went to Bernie’s rally last week which was uplifting, invigorating, and powerful. I work for a state agency where literally everyone is liberal except for the fucking administrators appointed by Walker. It would baffle me how he keeps winning when everyone I know loathes him and his…

I also worked at Chili’s and also rarely charged for coffee! I was also not above pouring a cup for someone that was brewed hours ago when they decided to order it at like 6pm... (after microwaving it of course)

Shorewood, Whitefish Bay, and Glendale all have really nice areas, are close to the city, and are by the lake. Pretty good school districts too (not sure if that’s something you have to consider or not). I would stay away from Brown Deer and West Allis (there’s very cheap real estate in West Allis and I have a few…

I have not. Maybe that’s something I can do on this rainy Sunday! Thanks for the suggestion; I love reading stories/hearing from others that I can really relate to.

I grew up in Milwaukee and my parents still live in a suburb, so I’m biased, but it’s really an up-and-coming cool city to be IMO. SO many good restaurants, and lots of stuff to do in the summer. Like someone else said, the winter can really suck, but you live in MA so I think you know how to deal with that.

Don’t freak out. You have so much of your life ahead of you. I have a good friend who graduated college at 22, then worked part-time at a nonprofit for a while (completely unrelated to her degree), then nannied full-time for a couple years, and now she is 26 and just got her real estate license and is about to start…

I say definitely talk to him. I’m not at all trying to freak you out, but I can tell you from personal experience that you may have an unexpected emotional reaction once you do get intimate. Or maybe not! But if you’re both at least prepared for that possibility, I think it will be much easier to deal with whatever…

I’m sorry about your situation :-( where in Wisconsin? I’ve lived here my whole life and I PROMISE it’s not so bad! (Well, with our current governor it could get much worse but let’s not think about that)

I can’t even imagine dealing with that. I have scoliosis which causes me to severely strain my back every so often. When it happens, it’s very difficult and painful for me to do literally anything and I get really angry and frustrated. It usually heals within 1-2 weeks though. Gah. Well wishes to you. When my back is…

I started as a Deadspin reader because a lot of my male friends were into it. I then discovered Jezebel only a few months ago, and SNS only a few weeks ago. I initially was hesitant to Jez because of ramblings about all the “feminazis” here or whatever. But it’s now almost the only site I check regularly, and not even…

Now it felt like YOU were describing MY life! I’m lucky to also have some friends from high school who changed their views, and I LOVE talking to them about how fucked up our schooling was. I am so thankful to have them so I am not alone in straying from our indoctrinated Christian beliefs and upbringing. But yes, it…