exactly what i said

raysism, and now you, assume that you know something about "my husband" ... did i say he sleeps around? did i say that, if he did, he would have no feelings whatsoever for his partner? i said i wanted him to feel free to sleep around with casual acquaintances, and i said that i would not want him doing so with persons…

yeah ... i would be crushed ... but if i made him stay with me, knowing that he loved someone else, i would be crushed and ashamed ... and oh, god, we'd both be so bitter and unhappy! better in my mind to rip band-aids off quickly ... if you can ... says the woman who loves people long after they warrant loving ... ugh

so ... the tree doesn't make a sound

you assume that i have a stereotypical view of men ... meanwhile, you declare your assumptions about an entire gender to be "the truth" ... sorry, but i'm gonna have to choose "ignore"

i totally get what you are saying ... sounds like realistic, grownup love-love to me!

what?! you know nothing about my partner's nature or his sexual history!

i repeatedly, expressly stated that i respect the fact that others have different feelings about monogamy, and that i am an outlier in our culture ... and again, expressly and repeatedly, i stated my refusal judge others for their beliefs ... i even acknowledge that, if he and his wife made the kind of commitment that…

right ... flag pins are a gender-specific burden that men the world over bear ... and president obama would be equally reviled for wearing a scrunchy, not enough makeup, and pantsuits

wow ... in order for an open relationship to work, you both have to be sociopaths ... and, evidently, breaking up because one partner falls in love with someone else and honesty issues are exclusive to open marriages ... good to know

whatever works for you, i support without reservation ... but i am personally not comfortable with thoughts of "my marriage has more emotional honesty & stability" than someone else's

i hope that your husband doesn't mind my saying that i love you ... just a little bit

i can see being able to do that ... but having been orphaned as a teen, i have a pretty unshakable need to be securely loved, to be someone's special someone ... in my ideal world, though, i would not be at risk of being alone or unloved ... and i would be free to love and liberate my partner to love anyone and…

i don't assume any such thing, hence my distinction regarding "affairs of the heart" ... but assuming that all physical "infidelity" is emotional is hooey ... do you think every one-night stand ends in a relationship?

like i said, i get that ... i would never enter a relationship promising physical monogamy and not just emotional monogamy ... and even in a solely emotionally-monogamous relationship, i would not be cavalier about my physical commitment

as apologies go, this one gets an a+, with its "i am sorry i was insensitive" as opposed to the classic, republican-speak "i am sorry if anyone thought i was insensitive when they took my actions out of context ... i have friends who are hobos who think i'm awesome"

all of this is so lost on me ... i don't get, have never gotten, the whole physical fidelity, i-own-your-body thing ... life is just too short and pleasures too few to clap chastity belts on one another ... and i neither want nor need to know if my man has gotten his freak on with a casual acquaintance, so long as his…

yes, paul ryan didn't invite that ... time magazine ruffied him, dressed him like a dufus, and taped a dumbell to his hand ... lolz to the max!

ryan lochte has invited the sexing up of his image, to promote things like his clothing line and acting career ... secretary of state hilton and gabby douglas have not put themselves forward as fashion icons or entertainers

courtney may be a "raging narcissist", but every 17-yr-old narcissist deserve a parent who cares more about their mental health than their mutual fame ... i feel so sorry for this girl ... she is in for a world of hurt, and she has no one in her life who actually gives a selfless damn