I think this is a huge point. I live in Boston so not getting engaged until 31 wasn't a big deal and was pretty closely in line with my friends. Meanwhile, my cousins (some of whom are up to 5 years younger than me) in Michigan, Virginia and Texas were all mortified for me and are all married and have multiple kids.

I feel like people are very black and white about monogamy. Either it's "easy" because you've found the right partner or it's "impossible" because it goes against our nature. In my experience, it's (like most things) something between the two. I've been with my partner for 4.5 years, and there have definitely been…

I was 26 when we met and we were married when I was 28. I was one of the youngest of all my friends to settle down. I'm 37 now and I love my husband and I'm happy with my choices, but I really miss the excitement and tension of meeting someone new. Don't give that up just because the people around you are settling…

Am I supposed to feel bad for cheaters? Because I certainly don't...

Nicely said. What I had at 20 was not what I really wanted for the rest of my life. I found that at 35, once I stopped looking. Monogamous during those times, though. Still am.

Definitely isn't fake. I know the person who wrote this.

I would go just so I could fashion a curtain rod dress.

What is gendered butthurt

Cuz that's really important to share in a a story about how women are being sexually repressed.

"Patriarchy is terrible the world around, folks."

While I can't speak for her, I don't think that Garcia-Navarro is arguing that the two cultures are equally harmful or oppressive to women — more that sexism in Brazilian culture (and American culture for that matter) is more easily overlooked. Brazil having the seventh highest rate of violence against women in the…

"No matter how you dress, no matter how you behave someone will perceive you as wrong." Yes. And if you are a woman, you will probably be sexually harassed when walking down the street regardless of whether you adhere to the "dress code" or not.

My friend is married to a Brazilian man who once referred to swimsuit bottoms that weren't thongs as "diapers." I can't that statement out of my brain.

The day Brazilian girls will be allowed to burn to death in their school because they're wearing too much clothing and, because, upon being rescued, they would offend the rescuers' eyes for wearing a shirt and skirt instead of a bikini, is the day when I believe Brazilian women are more oppressed.

"I felt betrayed, like I was being bribed."

I know that a lot of people take glee in her struggle, but honestly this is just sad to me.

Also I re-read and it seems like the cake was not in fact her gift, but rather just a favor she's doing the couple to help them with their budget? If that's the case they really are wrong and I don't blame her for feeling angry enough to back out entirely. I like what someone else said about sending the cake but not…

I think the boyfriend throwing the bachelor party, but not being invited to the wedding, is a little strange. I've never heard of someone being involved in actual planning of those events not even being able to go to the wedding (I mean, that's a wedding-party-member responsibility, really) and I think it's a little…

Go you.