Anyone had to walk away from a therapist?

Therapy has done wonders for me. It’s not easy, and some sessions are rougher or less productive, but I’ve gained such insight to my trauma. If finding a therapist is daunting I made this for some CA friends. It’s LA-ish specific but can be easily tweaked to anywhere: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1bNrCsL4hE6aYZp9…

Aw, thanks! I’ve shared some of the heartbreak here on Jez, so wanted to share some of the positive growth as well. After 8 years of my last relationship it was honestly a bit of a revelation to have someone hear and respect my boundaries. I had sort of forgotten that was a thing that people could do and had become…

This might stay in the greys but I thought I’d put it down in text somewhere. I feel like I’m finally starting to move past some of the grief of my divorce, and a large part of that was having something casual begin, exist, and then end in the nicest of ways.

Frank Black is a goddamn asshole. Idolize no one; it’s the only way not to be disappointed/accidentally give power to abusers.

a) You sound fucking rad. Cooking? Rad. Musical skills? Rad. Reading? Interesting conversations ahead. Fixing Shit?! What are you, This Old House??? That’s rad. Educated, enjoying exercise, and with life experience makes you a well-rounded, compelling person. You don’t need me to tell you that but I thought I’d say it…

I feel you. I’m heading back into dating post-divorce and it’s been both awful and not. Awful in that I don’t really know what the dating rules are these days, I thought I had MY person, and just the sheer enormity of heading into dating in my 30s is miiissseerable. But it’s also been great! I’ve generally only had…

That is such a relief to hear. Thank you so much for sharing.

That’s annoying he’s pushing you to that; I feel like it ought to be something you come to on your terms. I hear you on the not being a “real” relationship - I struggle with that too. Something I’ve realized is that there’s value in it not being real. I know NOTHING about my therapist. Is he straight? Gay? Married?…

One Last Thing - Since I’ve replied to you like three times. If going through school is annoying you may want to find a therapist outside of school that will take your school insurance. You may need a referral (that’s something to ask the school) but I have a WIP LA-centric document that I’ve been working on that may…

And another thing - I think a good therapist doesn’t pity. They may feel for you, but that’s because they are human, but sharing an emotion and pity are different. I think my therapist is good sharing an emotion with me and through that lifting some of the weight for me so I can handle what I can. That said, its taken…

I think of it as cleaning ones room: you have to take everything off the shelves and it’s a giant mess for a bit - but it serves the purpose of allowing you to discard shit, reassess shit, and put back what you want to keep in a more organized purposeful manner on the shelves.

Thank you :)

Thanks. The reassurance means a lot.

I hear that. But for me it’s a painful place to be I’d like to get beyond and I don’t feel I am :/

He is. I am too. I’ve come from a lot of trauma and so I get why I’m sort of afraid of this dude after all this time. It’s hard reminding myself he’s a professional and here to be a helpful tool but when I’ve spent my life insulating myself against harm by distancing and then only letting in a feeeeew people it’s hard…

Thanks - I really appreciate the feedback (and I’ll likely pick up that book for the downtime I’ll have over the holidays). Sometimes it is just time but I do feel like I’ve been circling the same ground over and over again lately and getting nowhere. I should just speak up. Blah. Scary.

How long did you find till things started clicking in therapy? I’ve been seeing my current therapist for about 10 months. He’s the best I’ve ever seen (tried two others for a few months); very present, remembers everything, and gives a lot... I feel if I needed to call him at 3am to keep myself alive he’d much rather…

Any other Law School Jezzies on here? I’m 1L and plugging away at Torts and CivPro today. Thankfully I have help in the form the above dumdum.

1L law school finals coming up. Any legal Jezzies out there with advice (beyond, you know, keep calm and plugging away at it?)