Except that in certain contexts, self-care IS feminist. It IS anti-patriarchal. Motherhood, for instance, is constructed in patriarchy as something that requires absolute devotion and unending sacrifice from mothers. Many mothers I know forego basic bodily functions like pooping and showering because they buy the…

Yeah, that made me laugh. I guess the fact that my husband and I trade “traditional” roles as necessary is not feminist of either of us (shocking side-note: he’s a feminist too!). Also, marriage used to be a social institution but now it’s almost entirely an economic one. We can dream of a future that involves…

The contrast for me was between one part of my childhood and another. Dad and his second wife were upper middle class for sure. There were 4 of us kids and while we shopped carefully at Costco, we never really wanted for anything, lived in large, spacious homes, dad was employed, etc. Dad and his third wife were poor…

I’m a progressive and went for Hillary because 1) her voting record in Congress matched Bernie 97% of the time so they really weren’t as different as everyone has made them out to be, and 2) she had a lot of experience in different parts of government.

This is exactly what we need! Thank you for jumping in.

I would love to see a citation for that, if you have one.

Exactly. This is why I liken forced pregnancy to torture - because doing it willingly wasn’t so great, so why would doing it unwillingly be any better?

Right. Or my anxiety sets in right after the introduction because now I have to think of things to say and they’re waiting.

Shame them publicly, too. I recommend documenting every instance of failed connection with a Twitter comment and the hashtag “wheresmysenator” or something like it.

I understand this. I felt some of it too. I organized a phonebank for Hillary for 2 months leading up to the election and only 1 of all of my supposedly lefty friends actually showed up. When they were crying after the election, I wanted to yell, “where the fuck were you when we were trying to PREVENT this?”

Precisely this. In Tulsa, we had 1,000 people. That doesn’t even count those I know from here who went to our state capitol or to DC. I’ve been fired up since summer because I could see Trump’s awfulness from a mile away but to know that that many people in this red city and state even agree with me? Wow.

I have had multiple people say to me, “I’m not going to protesting something that hasn’t even happened yet.” *headdesk*

When you say “non-binary”, are you talking about sex, gender, sexuality, or something else? Maybe I’m just not up on the wording these days but “non-binary people” is really vague to me. Can someone enlighten me please?

Someone doesn’t understand evolution.

I feel you, Beaver. I’ve seen the same thing happen in my state and it’s fucking ridiculous. Maybe if they actually fought, they would actually have a chance of winning.

I can only contend that you have a rosy view of the Founding Fathers. In my estimation, they didn’t want the great unwashed masses mucking up their democracy. Otherwise, they would have given everyone the vote (not just landowning (rich) white males), freed their own slaves, etc.

I ask my daughter if I can hug her. If she hesitates or says no, I either just say, “Okay” as if it’s no big deal and move on to the next thing or ask for some other type of interaction, eventually ending with that same simple non-reaction.

Faye Dunaway is great in it. Natasha Richardson is bland and expressionless through most of the movie. Elizabeth McCan’tReadHerLastName is a way more interesting and sad character than Offred.

This made me laugh so hard. Thank you.

I had to create an account just to say that I’ve still got “baby brain” 3 years after my kid was born. But I also have better hand-eye coordination and faster reflexes than I ever had before, which means I can accurately and easily catch a thrown object even if it’s in my peripheral vision or I only hear it being…