“She could stay off the deep dish pizza for a little bit.”

I’m willing to bet Kelly does give a fuck when people comment on her weight, but has decided to not give them the pleasure of seeing her hurt.

I was all “Hell yeah, Kelly!” until she got to the part about not having to be that way forever. Ugh. Yo-yo-ing can actually be pretty dangerous. More importantly though, WHO CARES! Just be who you are, rock your jam, and don’t waste time worrying about the opinions of middle age boners.

Fat jokes: the last vestige of people who truly have nothing intelligent to say.

Huh, so interesting. I live in Wisconsin and there’s definitely less general jerkery here than in other states I’ve lived. And Minnesota is at the top of the niceness pyramid, so it could have something to do with it. Whatever it is, I’m glad your experience has been better!

that’s called the round file

A girl did this in my high school. She made me feel bad because i sad something like “what, do you have cancer or something?” sarcastically when she was acting all glum. I told her then she was an asshole for trying to make me feel guilty for something i could not have possibly known about and everyone thought I was a…

I didn’t speak to him for 5 days (difficult, because I was still his assistant during that time). I talked to friends. I talked to colleagues. I talked to my therapist.

YES. HR exists to support the company, NOT YOU.

Always remember: HR is NOT your friend. They are there to protect the company from you and the guilty party rarely pays. I've known of ONE instance where a man was fired for sexually harassing a subordinate. And if she hadn't been a top seller and had documentation of incidences (and witnesses), she probably would…

I don’t think I’ve experienced the kind of soft sexism where I’m denied an opportunity or position because of my gender. Until my current job, all my bosses were female, and my current boss is a very chill dude who I have never had issues with. I negotiated my salary when I was offered my job and he did meet almost…

I am board president for a local nonprofit that is in the process of rebuilding after some pretty destructive EDs and boards have whittled it away to nothing. My Vice Chair of Board Development, a dude, does nothing NOTHING that he is supposed to do. And yet, he loves to walk around talking about he’s a vice chair and…

I am a youngish unmarried, childless woman. I work with a lot of married, childful men. Almost every single one of them works very late because they don’t want to deal with their kids or their wife. I used to think they were just busy, but they waste a ton of time during the day. So, if I want to leave when I finish…

OH GOD. I work in manufacturing, soft sexism/racism is my life. Like, maybe you should just not talk about how “Black Lives Matter” protesters are protesting the wrong thing when your boss is a WOC?

1.) Not being invited to things that other (male) managers are invited to. Golf outings, happy hour, etc.

2.) Being called out one year on the annual review as being too “timid” in meetings. Being called out the following year for being too “bossy” in meetings.

3.) Being told by my manager that I was only hired over…

I had a boss tell me once that I was perceived as “aggressive and intense.” And let me be clear - I’m confident and competent but not “aggressive and intense.” But some people find women who share ideas and advocate for themselves and clients to be pushy and bitchy. And I do know that it was the boss and not me,…

I live on a military base and, as a rule, we have some *eh hem* issues accommodating families where both spouses work. I forgot my ID on Tuesday when I left for work. When I pulled up to the gate at ~530-545 PM wearing a suit, I handed my driver’s license to the guard on duty (a non-military contractor employee who…

All women in Tech can tell you about meetings that they were not invited to, completed assignments that they did not receive credit for, plum assignments given to less deserving male colleagues, SUPER condescension from said male colleagues, in addition to having any initiative squashed by said male colleagues that…

OMG, I have an example from yesterday that I’ve been stewing over for the past 24hrs. My math professor used a sexist joke as an example of a math proof (girls=time X money, money=time, money is the root of all evil so money=sqrt(evil), therefore girls= sqrt(evil) X sqrt(evil)=evil.) It’s lazy, stupid, and sexist. He…

I don’t know if this counts as soft sexism or blatant: I work in the HVAC industry, an industry that is predominantly male. Every time I go to events like expo’s or training seminars it is typically assumed that I am: