I don’t know if all dudes turn Squiddy, but I do know that we often fall all over ourselves to welcome them and give them a lot of attention when they come here, and I decided to stop that at a certain point.

Now, that is a good point. So many dudes, and so many out of the grays. Unconscious sexism on the part of the editors?

I’m an entomologist and I work with that beautiful specimen you have pictured, Ae. aegypti. To maintain a colony in the lab, I will sometimes have to feed them by sticking my arm into a cage and letting them go to town. My best advice to avoid getting a reaction is to NOT SCRATCH no matter how much they itch. Once you…

I know this tip was posted before on LH, and that it does work, but not because its denaturing any proteins. Unless you got that spoon up to 140F, which would do a lot worse than denature proteins. More likely it overloads the pain/itch receptors since histamine plays a part in both.

I just went back a few pages in his comment history. It could be that he really has a daughter that is acting out sexually and that her therapist reported that she is interested in having an incestuous relationship with him, and he had a sister who molested him. Those things could both be true. But I am going to…

It truly pains me. I am often hesitant to interact with male commenters for this reason- they eventually get weird.

Co-signed. As much as I hate to admit it.

That was my reaction. The therapist seriously breached his or her professional ethics. He needs to take his daughter to someone else. The therapist’s analysis, as reported, sounds remarkably superficial in any event in taking the daughter’s fantasies and desires at face value. Also, there isn’t one word about what…

You need to get her to another therapist. It’s a violation of professional ethics for a therapist to discuss the details of your daughter’s fantasies with you. My son was in therapy at that age, and I am quite sure that his therapist would never have repeated what they talked about with that kind of specificity,…

Are you getting therapy also? I think we talked about this in the past and it’s worthwhile.

I’ve read this entire thread and if you’re being legit, you need a new therapist. Now. No professional, above-board therapist would have told you the details of your daughter’s fantasies, even to demonstrate. It is a crazy violation of her privacy. Additionally, they wouldn’t take her fantasies at face value.…

So what happened 2ish years ago? Did you start a new relationship or end one? Did you move to a new environment? Her behavior is a reaction, and you have the control here. Good luck.

I hate to sound like a broken record, (see my response from above) but there’s a an easy solution to the nakedness: forbid it. Take away her privileges until she drops the behavior.

Ok, that’s very disturbing. It doesn’t sound like your therapist is very good, though. Why would she tell you the details? How is that supposed to help the situation?

Good choice on the no school thing, but I wonder if they asked her if she was being molested because she did something at school that made them question her. Inappropriate behavior is usually assumed to be learned at home.

I’m a pervert, so I tend to think everyone else is a little bit of a pervert, too. But at 13, she knows she’s being sexually inappropriate. She might not be truly trying to seduce you, she’s just toying with it because she knows you would never act on it. It’s safe for her to push this envelope because it’s not like…

I’m sorry for dragging his back up, I didn’t realize this convo was two days old. Stupid Kinja.

I am a bit concerned. Your daughter is behaving inappropriately towards you and unless she is developmentally challenged, she is fully aware of it. You need to enforce consequences. Regardless of the rule, if she breaks it, she needs a consequence. The fact that it sounds like she’s entertaining some sexual fantasies…

When my cousin was about 8 or 9 she would act inappropriately towards my father in a sexually suggestive way. Since he is both not a pedophile and was sexually abused himself as a child he was deeply uncomfortable with the behavior and very troubled watching her act out. He brought it up with my aunt and was basically…

You are not taking this seriously enough. I can reasonably assume my dog is at home and behaving by herself when I’m working or at the gym or whatever I’m out doing without her. Because she is a dog and all I have to do is shut all the doors. I don’t even have to lock the doors to have the same level of confidence.…