The happens to women in the workplace more than probably anybody realizes. I was once told in an evaluation that others “found my competence intimidating” and that I should try to appear less outwardly confident in my abilities. They told me to “soften” my opinions by phrasing everything in the form of a question.…

no, sounds like your boss/coworkers are just assholes if you ask me. I’d look for another job if I were you. Are you the only woman in your team by any chance? Sounds like misogyny/internalized misogyny to me. Men talk about their accomplishments all the time and no one gives a shit. As an HR person, I call bullshit…

Hijack away! I am so sorry about your friend: I assume s/he is on the prescribed ‘cocktail’ of medications necessary to manage the condition.....

Not trying to be a topper, I just want to throw in my situation because I’m still weirded out by it. Earlier this week some other co-workers told me that another co-worker (who is a gossipy troublemaker) had been flirting hard with my supervisor because she was covetous of my little office (with a door) and was going…

Devil’s advocate here, I have no idea how you come across except for what you’ve written, so take it with a grain of salt. People do tend to find it annoying when a person continually brings the conversation or subject back to their own experience. It can be perceived as one up-man-ship. Yes sometimes it’s relevant…

At my previous job, which my horrendous boss literally created patently untrue write-ups of me by the dozens for in order to fire me with cause/a paper trail so corporate would deny me unemployment (thanks, assholes!), let’s just say I’ve learned the hard way that shitty bosses are not above making up complaints from…

Sounds to me (from this limited explanation) that you’re a Southern woman who’s behaving outside of their stereotypes and original perceptions of you. I have a hard time believing they’d say that about or to a man.

I work in an academic library, and I learned a long time ago that academia is not for me because of petty bullshit like this. My boss said that she thinks these people might just be insecure but she wanted me to know for “my own professional development.” It doesn’t feel very helpful because her advice is at odds with…

So remember the guy I said I had a crush on from work? Then I got on a dating website and was hating it because I can’t deal with rejection? Well. Today I matched with the guy from work. And I’m like “Is this awesome or is this awkward?” I’m saying awesome. I liked him with a green heart and now I’m waiting to see if…

“The first four years were good, the next five were just habit, and, honestly, we’ve hardly spoken for the last two, which was an improvement over all the fighting and bickering.”

Yah, ‘cos it’s totally something that happens equally between genders. Women, just as often as men, are trading their old spouses in for newer, younger models!

Congrats!

Well, he’s not really a boytoy but Scott Disick is apparently available to rent.

Blind gossip has posted an item or two about Taylor and Stiller. The rumor is that he is super controlling and mean about her weight. I am a Christine Taylor fan. Loved her on Hey Dude, loved her as Bald Bonnie on Friends. And something just gives me the feeling that the blind items are true. So, I wish her the best,…

This just makes me so fucking angry and sad. A cop - a shitty, murdering cop - can (presumably) justify to himself in the moment pulling his gun to protect his cowardly life when he thinks his life is in danger after being hopped up on racism and crime statistics. It’s an evil act and a breach of the public’s trust,…

Rich Mahogany.

What color staining?

More so - lions and tigers belong to the same genus. True tortoises form a family (Testudinae), and there are emydine tortoise wannabes like the box turtles, which are ecologically tortoises (more or less) but systematically in with the North American sliders and cooters etc. Then there are things like wood turtles…

Oops...I am a poor herpetologist.

Some people will do anything to get a shot at a wet beaver.