To me, you are a hero.

It’s Tomato Face.

Maybe it was Elle? or Cosmo? It had to be after 1986, but I suspect it was more like 1990?

I was born in the 70’s. I remember in high school when Ms. Magazine (I think) came out with a quiz, “Have you been raped?” and all of my friends took it. According to the quiz, with these new, modern standards of rape - all of us had been raped. It was...enlightening, to say the least.

Why does this not have more stars?

This is exactly right! Whenever a guy I know says something stupid like, “well, she was drinking a lot, and stuff happens...” , I say something like, “So it would be cool with you the next time you get drunk with the boys, if you woke up and they were raping you? I mean, you were drinking with a bunch of men, you kind…

You and I think the same. Both idiots.

I did this last week with a friend of mine. We were in a taco joint, and I ordered first. My friend then said, “Oh I’ll have the same thing!” and then proceeded to alter the order beyond recognition. I made fun of him to his face and encouraged the waiter to do the same. She had fun with it, and I gave her a big tip.

I also will not eat octopus. I saw a documentary on them about 10 years ago and was blown away by how smart they were. I lost my appetite for their delicious meat.

You should add Zsa Zsa’s book, which is fabulous. I’m going to paraphrase the most important, enlightening thing I ever heard (in Zsa Zsa’s book), “Your mother always told you ‘why should he buy the cow when the milk is free?’ but she was wrong about the milk. The milk is not sex. The milk is housekeeping.”

Oh yeah, I realize I didn’t make that clear in my comment...I will turn on the a/c at the drop of a hat, or the drop of a glowy droplet of lady sweat. I just wish I could tell my a/c to keep the temp at 75 but take out the humidity. But since I can’t, I leave the temp at 72.

If I can get the humidity down, 75 is fine. great. I don’t know how to make those adjustments with my a/c unit, though. Also, I suspect that removing the humidity is as energy-consumptive as keeping the temperature down. Just a guess.

I just gave you 5 stars by clicking really fast. The star system is definitely glitchy.

I grew up with parents who never, ever turned on the heat, and now I can’t stand being in a hot room, it comes across as stuffy and airless to me. I would sleep with the window open (a reasonable amount open) all through the winter if my husband wouldn’t “die from catching a chill like in the olden days”.

I like people who bring up Calvinism.

Did your Dad go to Millersville U? I think he used to date my sister.

Is JuneBeets actually TomatoFace? I sense the same type of “almost notquite” quality.

I’m also an atheist. I’ve always been curious why God the unchanging would need sex parts or a sexual identity.

This is great advice! I have long calves, and no matter how I try, I cannot get myself into certain poses without contorting my spine. Luckily, I had a teacher who explained to me that the “end shape” is not the goal. This really changed how I looked at yoga.

“I am routinely left out of meetings and projects.”