She does have that career as a professor, and if she does feel like focusing on that, I can follow her train of thought that she could let the TV stuff blow over for as long as she wants. It’s uncommon for someone to have that kind of fallback option.

On the one hand this is fantastic, and on the other it’s so desperately sad that just publicly acknowledging the accomplishments of women is considered a subversive and/or retaliatory act.

So past the initial article...she’s basically getting harassed for spreading the word about female scientists? FFS. Why are there so many pockets of men intent on erasing the accomplishments of women? And at the same time, dedicated to advancing the idea that women aren’t good at STEM. It’s really disgusting.

She’s been doing it for three years already and has a lot of helpers. I also imagine she could stop whenever she likes.

As the husband of a woman who is currently putting the finishing touches on her PhD dissertation, this article damn-near brought a tear to my eye. For the past six years I’ve witnessed the difficulties inherent with scientific discovery; I couldn’t imagine going through it with all of the bullshit many women…

Sure, but I really don’t think that what I wrote could be considered “too long” to read by any reasonable person. And “don’t shit where you eat” implies that you shouldn’t ask out your coworkers for your own sake, not theirs. Which, sure, intra-office romance can be messy for everyone involved, but the important thing…

TLDR: “Don’t shit where you eat”. Always holds up, always.

“He was in love with you”. No. No he was not. This is such a shitty trope. What she actually should have said was, “he liked the way you looked and so constructed an idea of who you are and put that on a pedestal and worshipped it rather than gathering his balls and finding out about you via normal conversation and…

Your peers in school do not influence your grades, your college acceptance, and you do not have a professional reputation at school to worry about. If a fellow student is inappropriate, they can and should be disciplined, expelled, etc. This is apples and oranges.

Talk to HR.

OMG yes! For some guys anything other than “fuck off and die” equals interest.

I speak for professional behavior in the work place. If the question had been “is it ever ok for a woman to ask a colleague out?” I’d have no to that too. Injecting romance into a situation where the person is obligated to be nice to you/around you is coercive.

But what about my peeeeeeenis?

Isn’t it fascinating that a piece about the sexual harassment women face at work makes these men go, “But what about my dating options!” instead of feeling sympathy for their female coworkers?

The only time you get to ask out a coworker, man or woman because I don’t care or judge, is right after you give your resignation. You’re at work not on fucking Tinder. Your coworkers do not give even the smallest fucks about your boners, so keep it in your fucking pants.

No.

I was like you. The good news is: you’ll get a job after graduation because STEM is in high demand. The bad news is: you may not get the job you deserve.

No. Women aren’t at work trying to find a date.

No, no, these are the same guys who shit on literature majors, because that’s a “useless girl thing”, although that may be redundant, because what is useless to humanity and devoid of any value, if not all girl things, right?

I experienced a lot of this kind of behavior as a very young woman - throughout my teens, boys I hardly knew would write emails not unlike the above examples (minus the cognac part) and it was NOT flattering. It was mildly frightening. By the time I hit legal drinking age, I’d developed a pretty good outer shell and…