Well, if you follow that link about time outs, it talks about how neurologically speaking, kids crave connection, so methods that enhance that connection and use it to teach better behavior and build intrinsic motivation toward positive behavior (which is natural to all kids - every kid naturally wants to be helpful,…

I also want to say that no spanking, yelling, or time outs doesn’t mean no discipline. Like you said, kids do often need to be removed from whatever stimulus or activity is happening. And removing kids from a situation and then staying with them (or staying nearby if they are full face plant on the floor screaming and…

There’s so many different options! I highly recommend looking at Positive Parenting with Rebecca Eames, and Janet Lansbury (who is a big fan of Magda Gerber and RIE) for starters, as well as Aha! Parenting. Janet Lansbury has a podcast called Unruffled that’s especially great at addressing stuff like this, using…

What you’re talking about is generally referred to as a time in, and it’s fundamentally different from a time out, because time out is about punishment through isolation, and a time in is about, as you have pointed out well, learning to regulate behavior through connection and gentle instruction.

Spanking and yelling* at kids are both demonstrably harmful, whether it rises to objective levels of “abuse” or not. And both are usually rooted in trying to compel compliance and obedience. There’s just no room for respecting the child and where they’re at in the authoritarian model of parenting. But that…

Militia groups are going to the border to “help” border patrol, but a lot of local land owners are saying they’ll refuse to allow them on their land because amongst other things, they’re trigger happy and will just lie to get out of murder charges.

His mother is Italian.

And yet people are afraid of the migrant caravan, which is mostly kids, and mostly people fleeing violence. Nevermind that the US created the problem in the countries they’re leaving, nevermind that we have a serious actual terrorism problem with white nationalists that’s being stoked by the president. According to my…

I didn’t find out that my dad had been engaged to somebody else (years before he met and married my mom) until after he died. Apparently he went away to fight in the Vietnam War, and got a Dear John letter while he was gone. Really sad. But then again, I’m glad it happened, because otherwise I wouldn’t be here!

It’s called stochastic terrorism, and they aren’t going to stop him.

I am so sick of these people.

This. And on top of that, there’s plenty of people who would be physically and mentally destroyed by their natural circadian rhythms if they got up at 4:45, or 5:30, etc. If you naturally have a later inner clock (as many of us do), you never, ever get used to that sort of wake up time, no matter what you try. Or if…

I have friends who are single parents and I honestly don’t know how they do it!

She couldn’t find one person of color who would agree that blackface was okay. Confirmation bias: check!

This! I relish the few minutes of cuddle time I get with my preschooler before he’s off to the races, and the few minutes of play time we get together before things really have to get rolling, but otherwise for my husband and I it’s a blur of making breakfast, changing diapers, making breakfast, eating breakfast, makin…

People take it at home all the time, it’s the standard now. I’ve had friends who have done it at home, some had mild to moderate cramping/pain and some had no pain at all, other than bleeding and only the mildest cramping. It seems like the earlier it was, the less painful it was. If you took it in hospital I’m…

Thanks for clarifying - is it actually illegal, or just not recommended and thus not prescribed?

And yes re: effectiveness, though it is very effective and a good first resort if you find out you’re pregnant early enough.

This woman is a hero, and I hope more people hear about this so women can get the medication they need. This is the safest way to terminate a pregnancy (safer than Viagra!) and more women need access to this.

There was a start and a stop button on that remote, I absolutely don’t believe that the partial shredding was not intended from the beginning. The whole thing is ridiculous. I mean, a brilliant bit of PR, and there’s something to be said about the art itself if we want to go there, but ultimately ridiculous.

If that were the case, no infant would ever get fed, either. Have you ever seen a hungry infant have the breast taken away before they were done? It isn’t great! Sometimes it’s a total nightmare meltdown that doesn’t end if you just try to start them up again. Fun!

The thing is, that mom gets to decide when she’s done,…