What does his inability to control other people have to do with him waiting a month and a half to comment on this? He still has total control of his own actions. He chose to ignore the problem. Like he always does.

I’ve spent a lot of time in parts of the world where vegetarian meant chicken and vegan meant fish. I personally love meat, but if I was on some sort of specific diet I’d probably bring food too.

I’ve had a family member offer me a Hawaiian (Canadian bacon & pineapple) pizza as “vegetarian.”

Good points. I’d be bringing my own food, too. Too many non-vegan people think that so long as there isn’t meat, it’s “vegan”. Sometimes people think something with fish is vegan. Sometimes I go places where people have assured me there’d be vegan options and everything is covered in cheese.

Yeah, but if they already own containers I can see them not wanting to spend more just for one event for a former college roommate (especially since weddings already mean quite a bit of expense for guests, typically).

Actually that is a big deal. Who the hell is taking mocking pictures of a guest at a wedding? I would boot someone for that.

Given that the only pictures of the food we’ve seen appear to be a box of dates, I’m curious what she was supposedly “moping” around cooking.

I had a problem guest at my wedding. We’d specifically not invited her and essentially crashed it. If one of the other guests had gone online to mock her and it became an international story, I’d probably cut them out of my life.

Seriously, this...

Yeah, the only actual evidence we have of any potentially assholish behavior is that.

It sounds like the vegan lady needs better friends. They sound insufferable. 

Generally you are allowed to bring your own food in if it is special diet or allergy related, but you usually check with the restaurant first.

That seems pretty reasonably sized. And even if it was as bad as the person claims, going online to bitch about it on what seems like a really bitchy facebook group is much worse.

“the bride-to-be had made special arrangements for the vegan guest, but she’d been insistent that she brought her own food”

Gotta say, bringing your own food and trying not to force the hosts to cater to you seems like a polite thing to do.

I don’t have any food allergies (except the mycoprotein in Quorn-brand foods, mild anaphylaxis, but this is an easy food to avoid since it’s only that one brand in the US), but knowing several people who do have food allergies and vegetarian needs, I get why a vegan might be concerned with food prep meeting their…

“how do you decide that all of the other people are the problem instead of her?”

I am extremely picky about what I eat to the point where it definitely annoys other people. However, I do my best to not make a big deal out of it. If I go to a restaurant that doesn’t have anything I like, I try to stick with the bread. Same for eating at someone else’s house; I eat what I can and avoid the rest. I…

So a person bringing their own food to restaurant/catered event so that the wedding party didn’t have to worry about providing for them is being self centered now?

“We went to a nice restaurant Saturday night, with plenty of vegan options (we checked the menu for her ahead of time) but she insisted on lugging a HUGE Tupperware container of her special food out.”