Thank you for your good and correct take on Christmas music.

SAME.

This is very good information that should be more widely known. Thanks.

In the context of an abusive relationship, or controlling parents? Yeah, I’ve definitely heard of people searching through trash cans for pregnancy tests.

Thanks!

Oh, please. It’s not “ageist and disrespectful.” It’s recognizing that hard-line “TRUE feminists must do X or else they’re HURTING THE CAUSE” attitudes are old-fashioned and just make people less likely to engage in feminism. Most reasonable feminists these days recognize that nuance and a diversity of experiences…

I think it was actually used more widely then ...

Listen, it’s deeply dismaying to me to see so may of my female peers change their names when they get married, and we need to change things, but you sound like a crusty old TERF.

I don’t think it’s fair to criticize women for changing their last names for a reason like “my father was abusive and I don’t want to carry his last name.” That’s a pretty fucking good reason to change your name, and getting married is an occasion where there’s less social friction (and less expense) around changing…

“I don’t think it’s fair to slander all feminists of earlier eras as as supporters of oppression in the name fitting in.”

It’s still interesting to me that it was “girl power,” and not, you know, “woman power” or something. Given the way people receive BLM today, I imagine there’d have been a lot more hand-wringing about ball-busting “feminazis” and comparisons to “white power.” (Which is not to say that narrative *didn’t* exist at the…

Pussy bows! Literally, they’re called pussy bows. :(

It’s tough, because in order to change patriarchal institutions, it helps to have access to them. (I’m of the mind that it’s pointless to argue over the best method to go about eliminating patriarchy—surely, it’s useful to have people working from the inside as well as the outside, powerful as well as marginalized…

I’m an atheist Christmas-lover, and hate the commercialism of Christmas more than ANYTHING. I appreciate the feasting, family time, music (well, some of it), the light-in-the-darkest-part-of-the-year stuff, celebrating renewal, etc. I loathe pop Christmas music, tacky decorations, Santa, the buying and giving of cheap…

oh, fuck off.

Total non-believer, but pretty much the only Christmas music worth listening to is the religious stuff. I’d rather put up with all the Jesus stuff and hear some of the most beautiful music ever composed than listen to a bunch of repetitive, saccharine pop trash. I don’t really have anything much against pop music in…

You know they have weed and beaches in places other than LA, though, right?

Ok, but do you actually live THERE, though?

Ha. I grew up in rural New England. I love driving windy mountain roads, but driving on the highway is stressful for me even when there’s almost nobody else on the road. For the past decade, I’ve lived in big cities with decent public transit. I can’t even IMAGINE living somewhere where you have to participate in…

Why would you even want to leave your house live in LA with traffic like that