I MOST CERTAINLY did not get any cash for graduating high school. And I don’t think most kids I went to school with got cash (or any other kind of presents), either. Maybe a party with cake, or something. But it seems wild and outrageous to shower kids with money for graduating high school when that money is most…

Yup. Weirdly, I love listening to it on the treadmill.

Oh, for sure. It’s definitely easier to choose to go makeup-free if you have the money for fancy moisturizer and nice facials on the regular.

I’ve been persuaded that a registry is a good thing to have—not because I want or expect guests to all buy shit for me from the registry, but because there will INEVITABLY be people who want to buy a physical gift from a registry, and it solves practical problems: people buying you shit you don’t actually need, people…

I swear by experiences and consumables for gifts. Good meal at a fun restaurant, nice bottle of booze or fancy chocolates, classes or lessons, trips, movie tickets, memberships and subscriptions, homemade treats ... all great options for gifts, especially for grown adults with jobs who don’t really need *stuff.*

More likely they thought it was someone who was working at the wedding (caterers, dj, set-up/clean-up crew, etc.)

Ugh, is that what it’s called? It’s so aggressively ubiquitous that it’s actually sickening. Which is unfortunate, because they’re perfectly fine patterns, theoretically speaking.

This is fair.

To be clear, I’m not saying she didn’t intend to take a public stance on this. She obviously did. I’m not sure that she intended it to be the kind of hard-line absolutist kind of stance that it’s been portrayed as.

You are insane.

Hahaha, the trick is to NOT try to stay on trend, and instead to just pick the things that really sing to you!

Yeah, it’s a combination of budget and timeline, I think. It’s sort of this issue:

Dang.

Yep. I think that’s definitely in a similar vein.

Yeah, definitely. For me, it really comes down to a question of whether it’s appropriate for people to criticize her with such enthusiasm about this, and how that plays into the reinforcement of patriarchal beauty ideals. Like, I understand the criticism of someone saying something that was taken as a fairly official…

Not even close to the same thing.

I’m a fucking riot.

Nice!

As far as I understand, she really has been completely makeup-free for some things. Just not absolutely everything. And I think she’s being put in a somewhat impossible position with the way that this whole thing has been written about.

That’s completely irrelevant. Women participate in upholding the patriarchy, too, it’s not just men.