They like to flip the script and change the wall hangings on the socially-enforced gender performance boxes every few years just to keep people on their toes. Just when middle/upper-class white women learn to not smile in public, wear blue, and leave the poetry writing to the men.... BOOM! Time to switch it up. Last…

A lot of my job involves working with women post-mastectomy. I don’t judge women who get reconstructed, I can’t imagine how losing a breast would feel. But many have told me that, had they known the hassle and pain of reconstruction, they would have skipped it altogether. Should my turn with mastectomy ever come, I’d…

Biggest Douche on the Internet Award recipient, right there.

It’s rough indeed. My sister had breast cancer at 26 years old and she had 3 large and aggressive tumors. The surgeon reconstructed her breast using a combo of silicone and a piece of her back muscle. The doctors said she could reconstruct the nipple in a few months with tissue from her vulva and tattooing an areola.…

Yeah and we could also interact online without facepalming every time you all comment.

My mom’s a teeny person, and didn’t have reconstruction. “No one even *noticed* that my boobs are gone!” she said afterwards. “It’s so insulting!” Then she started making cracks about getting a Jayne Mansfield prosthetic bra. “That’ll show ‘em!”

My mom didn’t have reconstruction surgery either. She didn’t even ask. She just didn’t feel like her femininity or worth was tied to her boobs. She has never criticized the decision of other cancer survivors to get reconstruction surgery. She is just happy the way she is and supportive of the rights of others to do…

Nope. They are still allowed to go grocery shopping, eat at restaurants, enjoy some “me,” time, etc without 1-on-1 interaction with their fans. They can decline all they want, and if you’re not a massive asshole, you will respect that.

I was diagnosed at 29 with a tumor large enough that mastectomy was the only option. It’s important for people to know that the razzle-dazzle surgical reconstructions that sometimes are out there in the media (a la Angelina) are most often for people who didn’t have cancer at all (preventative) or didn’t have the full…

That is a truly disgusting attitude.

I 1000% agree. This is an absolute violation when she clearly was uninviting him out of her space and he willfully ignored her plea. unfuckingbelievable that there are humans that think this shit is A ok. What the fuck.

OP said camera lenses can be male-gazey. This is a perfect application of OP’s statement. If going into someone’s face to shoot them against their will isn’t male-gazey-rapeish, I don’t know what is.

I don’t understand that mindset at all. Are celebrities not allowed to be off the clock? If someone started harrassing me on my day off to put together some spreadsheets I might even become violent

Who says it? Guy for whom women are things.

He said “we paid for you” and also didn’t respond to her “stop” and “no.” Maybe it sounds very radical fem but camera lens can be male gazey and with the non consent here this feels kind of rapey (no, that doesn’t undermine actual rape...this is a different degree but in my understanding there is a spectrum of…

Ever think about how it’s 2016 and we still can’t shake the belief that people are a commodity?

It is now my life’s goal to become a bug bear to innocent children.

Yeah, i realize that. I don’t mean to throw shade at non breast feeding folks. I just think if someone can manage to breast feed why shame them? I really hope I can do it and I hear the first 6 weeks is super hard. If anyone gives me a hard time I’m probably going to bodyslam them. BUt I am totally guilty of shading…

Women are told the same things- that our bodies are inherently sexual and for men. Internalized misogyny can really do a number on us.

This is what I think when people complain that you shouldn’t breastfeed/pump where a child could see you. Isn’t a boob one of the first things a child sees after it’s born?