UPDATE: I doubt any of you will read this, but so many of you Jezzies out there gave me so much support and kindness after I made this comment. It really, really, REALLY helped. Well, I’ve been working really hard since my horrible evaluation, trying to take the information I finally have now in order to do my job,…

I agree. I don’t hate people for being rich, good for them. They picked lucrative careers and the fates were kind to them. I think what the parents did is horrible, and if she didn’t know, which it sounds like she didn’t, not only is her current career tanked, she now knows that any accomplishments she may have…

Chili and Cornbread are perfect names 10/10

If I have to watch one more Naked & Afraid instead of Schitt’s Creek...

Dear god, you just nailed a HUGE part of why I got divorced. Everything I liked? Dumb. Everything he liked? Clever. I truly believed it, too. And to this day, I find myself deferring to my boyfriend or whomever when it comes to picking what music to play or movie to go see. FUCK. UGH. It makes me ANGRY. 

Wow, thank you for that. Seriously. Reading all these comments really helped me feel anger rather than shame. I just really expected to hear “here’s where you are, here’s where we want you in 6 months.” This was just insane to me, and yea, 99% of it was stuff that I had NO Idea about. I definitely have my eyes wide…

That sounds really painful and awful to have lived through, but what an inspirational ending!! Good for you, I am so impressed!!!

That sounds like a HORRIBLE place to work. I am sure you deserved that compliment, and they should’ve been happy about that. Wow.

Such a good reminder. Thank you.

You are seriously the BEST. Thank you for validating me, offering real advice and being so supportive. You are a kick-ass person, I can tell. xoxxo

Ugh, that sounds VERY familiar. I hope things worked out for you. 

Yea, I mean, no one likes to be told they suck, deserving or not, right? I hope things worked out better for you once you got away from that shitty boss.

I am so sorry that crap happened to you, but it sounds like it worked out for the best! Yes, I am trying to weed through the shame and find the lessons. I hope to be better for it all!

Thank you!! You are right, I am not a failure. I internalize so much and I can let things get the best of me. I will try to just learn from this and continue moving forward. You are very kind. 

My manager later emailed me (privately, of course, not in front of her bosses) to say she “may be too much of a general communicator” and “I forget to use my details paintbrush sometimes,” so yea, I’d say there’s an issue. My VP recognized it and said “it sounds like you’ve been given a bunch of puzzle pieces and no…

Thank you! You are so right. Just a bad moment, not a defining moment!!

Wow, you really nailed a huge part of this. I was BLINDSIDED by the review. I knew there would be room to grow and improve, and I WANT to know the things I can do better on. But I literally sat there for 2 hours in front of 3 bosses with a list of things I was doing wrong. I have been praised for the entire 6 months…

A great point! And we don’t learn from things that come easy. 

Good for you for standing up!! That always works itself out, universally. In this case, it’s more of a situation where I’m new at a job and haven’t been given all the information I need to do it well. That was laid out and I believe my supervisor realized she’d dropped the ball with me. So while it was a major bummer,…

Thanks! That was really nice of you to say. I’ll definitely get in line for Captain Marvel at some point for some girl power action. I do feel like I can grow and learn a ton from the feedback I got. I also feel like I got thrown to the wolves because most of the review was me saying things like “Oh. No one ever told…