dead giveaway you went on a cruise this summer.

My thoughts, as they went through my head:

Some time when people are criticizing racism there actually exposing there own racist thinking! If you weren’t a little racist your mind would not have automatically perceived the cornrows and prison as some how meaning black girl. Ah real person with not racist association would have noticed the fence first

I’d say she looks like she's going to a juggalo soirée, but not jail.

My PTSD came from childhood abuse- there was sexual abuse, but also a lot of violence. My reactions aren’t always related to the sexual abuse part, sometimes it is just feeling a temporary lack of control. I would avoid orgasm for a long time because I feared the loss of control, that vulnerability. You won’t have…

I’m in therapy for my PTSD and my super awesome therapist recommends doing strictly cuddling, basically any non-sexual touch until that feels natural and nice. Then move the goalpost a bit and see how that goes. There were some times that we tried to go a bit further and I would freeze up and freak out, but that was…

I know those feels.

That’s interesting. We kind of do that now without putting clear rules on it. It feels a bit like we are two single parents who happen to be roommates so I have a feeling we’re doing it wrong. A chore chart would be very helpful because yes, I want to punch him in the face when it comes to housework. But in many ways…

We went back to strictly making out for awhile. When you know sex is coming, inevitable, because you’re married it can feel totally unsexy and anxiety-producing.

Yes, the last date night we had was like this:

Yes, I agree with you. Scheduling sex would be like scheduling a root canal at this point. Like I’d have to spend days mentally preparing for it. Not fun.

For real. If Tracy wants she can send “funny but too nice all the time” and “hot, but not deep” my way now that she’s done with them. God spare me from an armchair philosopher who’s always trying to rope you into three-hour conversations about spirituality and moral relativism. Find me a nice shallow guy who likes to…

I said this same thing up thread. “Too nice” is a lazy and inaccurate description. Passive aggressive, unable to communicate, out of touch with his feelings, idealizes me to the point of forgetting I’m a flawed human and expecting perfection - those are some of the characteristics I think get lumped under the shitty…

The weird thing is, that even though he doesn’t want to for instance, meet my parents, something I’ve never done before with any man I’ve dated (he made an excuse but I can tell he just isn’t ready), and do other things that couples typically do after a certain period of time, I think he’d be insulted if I suggested a…

“Too nice”, in my experience, translates to “Has no opinion”.

We have memes for that.

I don’t know what you just said but keep talking.

Man, he’s gonna be pissed when someone reads this article to him.

Floyd got confused. He forgot you hug women and punch boxers, not the other way around.