That’s one the reasons I’m glad Stoya spoke out about this particular incident. An individual consenting to a BDSM relationship doesn’t mean her or she has consented all possible sexual interactions.

As someone who was abused by a prominent member of the BDSM community and deleted my social media accounts because I couldn’t handle seeing him praised as a “feminist”, I’m awed by Stoya’s bravery. I hope she gets all the support she deserves.

You just havent found the trap yet!

When my wife and I got together, I made something very clear to her: I don't do questions that are actually 'tests', and I don't do 'hints' either.

Yeah, that's realistic advice:

You never talk about your ex's. They ask something, tell them you don't remember and that shit didn't mean enough to want to remember. Then, change the subject back to your current SO, as she is trying to set a trap for you. It's a test. It's always a test. And failure is about 90% guaranteed.