The dynamic you describe with BF and your GF, and BF’s other friends for that matter, sounds co-dependent to me. BF is all or nothing: not available, barely available and then-no boundaries-completely available (calling at 3:00 am, sleeping on the couch). If all needs are not met (e.g., going to a different…

I would feel the same way if my partner was defaulting to someone else for final decisions. Why is the friend even in a relationship at all? That doesn’t seem fair to me. It sounds like your girlfriend has a big heart, but that the friend is crossing boundaries by being so dependent on your girlfriend.

This sounds to me less like your own internal problem, and more like your girlfriend is genuinely treating you as the second fiddle.