I love the internet for this

what a devastating loss. RIP

I can’t believe this! I used to watch her videos. How sad. My heart goes out to her family and friends.

My mom just died of cancer. Actually going to the viewing tomorrow, funeral on Wednesday. It’s not something you look forward to, but if there’s one plus side, you REALLY learn to appreciate the time you have left.

Yeah know the thick skin argument is complete crap. I have a thick skin but I don’t want some idiot slamming me for perceived wrongs. It’s a fricking GAME. It is meant to be FUN. Let’s get some damned perspective here.I got into Overwatch during the anniversary event. My kids love it but they play only AI and I have…

I understand where you are coming from, but I think you are ceding ground that shouldn’t be ceded. There’s no reason you should have to have a thick skin when it comes to online gaming. The majority of us don’t want to be or listen to other people be verbally harassed, even when it doesn’t involve slurs or some sort…

This is what has always stuck in my head when it comes to this stuff. White Knighting and making your self a target in a vain attempt to help others is a very poor solution. If you cant shift the blame, report the troll and move on. If enough people are reporting the ass-hat, they will end up on the mods radar and it…

A lot of commenters have suggested that in previous articles. A thick skin is necessary for online gaming, don’t get me wrong, but these commenters fail to understand that harassment in games is a reflection of a real-life culture that pays women less in the workplace, resists healthcare coverage of birth control…

And I think it’s worth pointing out that in your example that you give, you get to go on with your day after that interaction. The ‘target’ more likely than not experienced the exact same type of bullshit every. time. they try to play. Having to live in that shit is exhausting, and should not be acceptable whatsoever.

Yes, by staying silent, you are helping a bully/harasser accomplish their goal.

Pushback is very important. In the type of harassment we see online its about the bully creating an environment to say “See this is normal. Society agrees with me and you should be silent.”

I think if we ever hope to control this kind of issue, the bulk of the work is going to be on developers to build some kind of reporting/banning tools that actually work. I mean we’ve got the voice recognition technology to ban certain words and have players flagged for repetition of use. Why its not used? I have no…

I would also ad, suck it up is such a hypocritical response. It goes way more to the people who can’t hear, “That hurt my feelings,” or, “What you said was bigoted,” without 16 lines of QQ explosion. Suck it up — seems always a double standard response. How can you say “suck it up?” Without being a hypocrite? Why does…

God do I wish some white hats would start outing these fuckers.

Why should other anon dudes stick up for some rando sensitive woman online?

Most people would agree they’re particularly nasty, though. I think Cecilia is right about the reason; they hurt more because they’re linked to certain kinds of people having a tougher time in real life. Like, I work in a field that’s 80% male, and have had guys question my skills because of sexism; for me, that’s why…

Because it is usually said by someone who is not experiencing playing games while female, so the ‘don’t let it get to you’ -sayer is thinking about random, annoying trolls who may make a dumb remark about character choice or play-style, not the consistent, singular message of ‘You suck because you are a woman’ getting…

So essentially no matter what someone says grin and bear it. If you feel terrible you win because they maybe don’t know that they made you feel terrible. So while they still win since they accomplish their goal they don’t get the... pleasure? Of knowing they won. They only get the pleasure they get from the initial…

“Don’t tell my dog not to bite people, you’re bullying me by attempting to use shame to change my approach to dog-rearing.

It’s pure narcissism to suggest, just because my dog bit you and I just stood there laughing, that I should do something about my people-biting dog.

I mean, it’s not even my dog, just because it…

Cecilia is literally shaming people into action. That is bullying.