No hate, but why on earth do people assume adoption is analogous to IVF or other forms of natural childbirth? I'm not going to discuss the incredible cost, difficulty and potential for heartbreak in the bureaucratic process since everyone else has done that already. I'm just saying: it's apples and oranges. An adopted…

This post makes me hate you a tiny bit. Adoption and infertility are separate issues. Please leave them that way. Also: check out what everyone else has said on this thread about the dumb shit you're saying.

This is exciting! I have an hourglass figure so these suit me and they are usually hard to find.

To people bringing up adoption: it costs just as much.

We did 4 rounds of Clomid/IUI and then decided to move on to IVF. I ended up getting pregnant naturally 2 months before our IVF cycle was scheduled to start. I almost loathe telling people that because it feeds into the "just relax" mentality that is so infuriating. And I was anything but relaxed at the time.

I have 2 children from IVF and one child from international adoption, so that's my background.

It seems like you are genuine and a nice person, hopefully you've realized that this is a complicated and sensitive issue for many women. Just keep your thoughts to yourself, until you have a real experience to share and then do so respectfully. If you need a disclaimer that says "I'm not shaming anyone!" then you're…

Now, are we talking about the jeans that are suuuuuuper high waisted and go above the belly button? Or just a general trend in higher rises? Because if this means it won't be impossible to find jeans that actually fit at the waist instead of 3 inches above my vag I am So Into This

It's very unwittingly trolly and undermines reproductive choices, which rubs me the wrong way, especially when I hear it in chorus. This wasn't confusion it was judgmental and demonstrated no regard for what many people actually go through. There's also very much a high-and-mighty tone from someone who has never been…

Maybe hold off on giving others "advice" on their reproductive choices until you have had real experience. Seriously, it's not too different than men giving "advice" to women about birth control and abortion. If you haven't experienced infertility, then shut up and sit down.

Your comments were incredibly shaming, whatever your intentions.

A family friend and her husband tried to adopt. They're well off and are able to provide these children with a great upbringing. They adopted two brothers and the boys are wonderful. They then decided that they wanted to adopt girls, since they wanted more kids and their first adoptions were so successful. They went…

YAAAAAAAAAAY!!!! I LOVE these jeans. They contain my belly in such a loving & comforting way!

I knew I shouldn't read the comments on this post considering I'm hopped up on hormones and about to undergo the second half of my first IVF cycle. By the way, it's not because I'm "old" and waited too long, etc. Ours is male factor, which has been from birth and waiting until we were 30 makes essentially no…

The only acquaintances I have who are struggling with infertility have been doing so since their late 20s, and others are conceiving naturally past 35. It's a crapshoot, and not always straightforwardly related to the father's overall health, or mother's.

One more point about adoption v. IVF (as I have to go off to meet one of my clients - a beautiful parentified 4 year old boy with a mother with a low IQ who keeps getting into trouble0.

You realize that very young women use IVF to treat infertility too, right?

Um. At 28, am I past my "sell by date" to be allowed to use my health insurance to treat an actual medical problem?

For those of you who are jumping on this to ask why people don't just adopt...

It should just be him shrugging....