Yes, so are some of my cousins in Valencia, thanks. I just meant, they didn't diversify much from the Mormon folk band look Pele mentioned . . .

You're my Good Luck Charm, girl (? or boy?) Let's Get Married.

Okay kind of off topic with R&B but you must (maybe?) know "This is a Journey Into Bass" and "Lookout Weekend" and "When I Hear Music." Unless you are too young . . .

Speaking of Love & Basketball, did someone post Maxwell's "This Woman's Work" yet?

Thank you for posting this. Songs used to be so good. Side note: WTH with the vertical-stripe mock turtleneck?! Oh, '90s!

Oh my gosh I just posted this right after you. So good! Love the matching suits.

And (Jagged Edge):

And (Shai):

You guys I'm just gonna post slow jams all day then; Jesse Powell:

Plus, he was . . . white with blonde hair. He was culturally Latin (Latin American) and self-identified as Hispanic. But his heritage may well have been germanic. Not sure I'm saying all that correctly but what I mean is—he looked like he could be related to Trista et al.

Uh did you listen to Power 96/DJ Laz? Were/are you from Miami?!

Agreed. This was post-'90s and kind of not strictly R&B/slow jam, but still kind of:

Ditto; this may not be a "slow jam" but it was my jam in 1996:

I don't know how to embed videos so hope this works:

I can't star this enough so I will just echo: Lauryn Hill! 112! Blackstreet, Babyface, K-Ci & JoJo, Usher, Ginuwine ("can I get some room for me up in those jeans?")—I have to go find my old iPod!!

An older woman had told me that one day I would just notice it had stopped, and I can't say what that day was, but it was somewhere between ages 30 and 39. I don't even know when, I just know I did realize one day, "Oh, that never happens anymore." I never even get "smile!!" (which I used to get 4x/day on my walk…

Same here (not Baptist, though). Never heard that idea at church, only heard/read it from Nietzsche ("But what is woman for man? ...Man shall be trained for war, and woman for the recreation of the warrior: all else is folly....Bitter is even the sweetest woman....A plaything let woman be . . ." etc.)

Miss Manners addressed this "compliment" idea once, when a woman wrote in to ask, basically, "should I say 'thank you' to the construction workers who catcall me?" and Miss Manners was like, "Um, no, those are not 'compliments,' please do not be pathetic and say 'thank you,' and maybe you need therapy if you find your…

He continued to defend himself, and finally told me that maybe it was different for me, because I wasn't hot.

Yeah, that was the part that . . . what??