maybe I like the music because i own both of those things.

Graveyard is far speedier and thrashier and uses that growling down the pvc pipe style that Scandinavians are so enamored of. that doesn't do much for me. whereas I like this.

On that point I'd like to recommend a book on Vietnam by Nick Turse, "Kill anything that moves"
http://www.amazon.com/gp/pr…

because if you did speak up like the White Rose Kids, it would take less than a day for you to be rounded and dispatched in a gestapo prison, and your family members having to endure your treason was a pretty powerful incentive but also carrots such as maybe being the little fuhrer of your own fascist mini fiefdom…

if you want to take things slowly which is fine, you stick with taking things slowly, not sticking you hands in someones pants then accusing someone of being gay because they aren't responding in a way you secretly like and want.