I just found out that my parents are still calling my EX-BOYFRIEND for computer help! Mom was so gleeful about it, too. She probably wanted to gloat that she can have a professional relationship with him. It's a good thing I never told her that he apparently doesn't want me back. I should have stayed in the…

Thanks for the tips!

Yes, there is that.

I know it's not fair to the new guys. How do I keep from doing that, though?

Yeah, I'm not saying that self-awareness isn't a good thing. Self-deception might be, though.

I've been thinking lately that I might have been able to stay with my angry ex, but I could not deal with his making things up and manipulation. Why is it so hard to find a humorous guy who is like him, but without all the major red flags of narcissism and everything else?

You know, I didn't even think about that, but now that you mention it… yeah. :(

There's a good reason why people generally should not stay friends with exes or fuck buddies.

If I was confronted with a massive double standard like that one, I hope I would have the courage to end the relationship before it got even worse.

I'm 38. I won't go for people who are likely to be emotionally immature, or people who look too old. (I know, I know) So a kind mature person 33-40 would be nice. Maybe I should broaden my horizons, since I know that age isn't necessarily a factor in how emotionally mature you are.

"He’s fucked hundreds of women and is close friends with a lot of his former fuck buddies."

I'm not, anymore. I quit being interested last Friday, especially when he claimed that my attached pictures were too small and that you couldn't see my face clearly, so he asked for another one. Bullshit. Nobody else has had that problem.

I can see them having a discussion about it, and her deciding to do it anyway or not. (how do you compromise on something like that?) I know it's not going to make things better, and they may have issues because of it. But is she going to regret not changing it? I don't know - I'm not her.

Ah yes, being a wise-ass. I know that well.

He does not sound accepting at all.

It wasn't even a date - it was through email.

I once saw a brony on the bus who did have a ponytail.

It's her body, though. She gets to make the decisions. I can understand his being a little upset, but it's not HIS body! If he can't remove himself from her own decisions, then this relationship may be unhealthy.

I bet that this is the first time that she has felt bothered enough to actually write about one issue, but that one issue is actually the springboard for a lot of others!

Ugh, at least my ex with anger issues wasn't like that as far as I know. Still, I agree with you - being in a relationship with someone who has anger issues IS shitty, especially if you can't turn it off.