You mean All in the Family, the show where the creators set out to create a deliberately offensive main character to show that his values were garbage? Why would that ~really~ piss me off? Btw, don't think I don't notice that you're trying to make me out to be the emotionally hysterical one here, even though you've…

"If the character said "thank god it's not a black women" then that means
the character does not find black women to be sexually attractive.
Doesn't even mean he's racist necessarily. That might be hard for you to
believe. I personally think any skin color can be attractive. So what?"

Basically, I wonder why you're so invested in defending this joke which you yourself say is terrible.

No, but you drew equivalence between "I don't want to kiss a transwoman because ew" and "I don't want to kiss a dude because ew". They're not remotely the same thing, and the comparison has all sorts of unfortunate implications. Hint: the latter is about sexual orientation.

No, it's more like if you said "Thank god it's not a black woman." And then the audience laughed because making out with black women is gross.

How is a joke that boils down to "Thank God it's not a transwoman" not at the expense of trans women?