When you teach women that the extent to which their values lie are in how attractive they are to others, then those kind of comments do not carry the same weight~*~*~*

Well really it depends, but it seems like the way you've set up this question that you assume "thin" = "taking care of herself" while "fat" = "not taking care of herself". There's nothing wrong with wanting a partner who shares a similar lifestyle and interests, but I can tell you, being thin doesn't necessarily mean…

"All of my notions of acceptable body types are informed by popular culture!!! How dare you try to make me self-reflect on my own toxic opinions!!! Wah!!!!"

Well, no, not everyone will agree, but you can still work towards educating and enlightening as many people as possible.

There are systemic reasons why certain body types, skin tones and bone structures are revered by society, and a lot of that falls on (white) men's shoulders. That doesn't mean that individual actions can't take a toll on people as well though.

I must have missed that line in the article that said "Wow, it's much harder being a fat woman than it is to be a poor, black man".

Thank you for your thoughtful and invaluable contribution.