Her infidelity and lies are outright abuse.

Newflash: She lied to you and fucked him.

An act of maturity is not fucking around on your partner because you got in a fight and he walked out for a few days (o yaaa hes gone now I can fuck other men! Forget that whole monogamous thing and til death do us part)

The ultimate abuse is him raising that kid and her being so excited to see her ex at the party. There was no shame or regret on her part.

I think your initial assessment is correct. All of the signs were there. He wasn't paranoid…he's good at reading people (with the help of the tech.)

How about the lying, abusive, infidelitous wife that tricks her husband into raising another mans child….O THAT POOR THING. I FEEL SO BAD FOR THE WIFE.

O NO, they get in a fight and the wife waits just days to go around fucking the neighborhood….wow HES SUCH A JERK.

His wife is the asshole.