My husband seems to be pretty fond of me sooooo...

You are incorrect, at least in my case. I don’t think women of color are inferior to me, my body parts just don’t get excited about dark nips. Why would I not want to say ‘no women of color’ on my online dating profile then? That way, no one gets their hopes up for something that is physically never going to happen -…

My “type” is men who are Black, mostly Black, Blackish, or Hispanic with a decent helping of melanin, with lots of variation within those groups. My boyfriend is 6’3” and medium brown, my ex-husband is 5’3” and Puerto Rican/Panamanian. I dated a guy with pale skin, green eyes, and blonde dreds once. I find people like…

“... I meant exclusionary preferences; like “I refuse to date black people, I will only date white people”

Also maybe don’t do something stupid like trying to draw an analogy between sexual orientation and racial preferences.

As a gay dude I’m particularly equipped to bristle at the thought of someone gently informing me as to who I should be fucking or why, for any reason and under any circumstances. The notion that one’s…

Please don’t tell me how I can use language, it’s demeaning for both of us - but mostly makes you look simple. The argument that this OP draws on is that if you’re not fucking other races, other genders, or any number of minoritarian subjects, that it is because you are racist, ableist, transphobic etc.

This is…

If you refuse to date all black women, some part of you must believe them inferior or else you would get to know something about them personally before making a judgment call.

If your “type” is your race alone... you’re a racist. By definition.

I’m shallow as fuck when it comes to looks and personality. And I give no fucks about how “horrible” that makes me.

I don’t think that’s fair to say. There are some folks out there that, even though they are amazing, awesome people, I will never be attracted to. I have an “anti-type”; tall, “big”* men with beards. I just cannot get into it. There’s something in my psyche that just repels from the thought. Insisting I get to know…

I’m not really sure what this changes in practice, though. If I don’t find my friend or my neighbor attractive, but then get change my mind as I get to know him, there’s no problem. If I don’t find a guy on OkCupid attractive, it’s asking a lot to expect me to invest enough time in getting to know him in hopes of…

So we have to be diverse in our dating or else we’re racist?

I... really?

i mean, i can recognize that a woman of another race is attractive, or hell, that a man of any race is attractive (i’m a straight cis white male, so.), but not really be attracted TO them... any more than i’m attracted to the women at the top of this article (which is to say, i’m not. They’re pretty, tho!)

That sort of sexual policing gives me rapey vibes. It suggests that we have to go against our own bodies and experiences to somehow fuck our way to social justice - which is gross. I don’t need to be shamed or coerced into having sex that I don’t want to have, especially not when its only to further a narrative.

Gay…