I don't really care about my birthday one way or the other (adopted, might not even be the actual birthday), but my best friend is like you. She usually turns off all technology around the day and leaves it off until after it's over in the Hawaii time zone (we live in Europe). I think for her it's also not a getting…

Sorry for the late reply. This was wonderful thank you so much. I think just telling someone and you responding that I'm not insane helped tremendously.

Sort of seeing someone new. First time in over a year since last relationship ended. That relationship lasted two years and was completely abusive and awful. As a result I have no confidence in myself in choosing men, and even though I really like the new guy, I am terrified that he will turn out to be of similar…

I'm sorry to hear you had such a 'friend' too. I don't really know what to do, and since I'm so far away it's not really a big issue, but I know if I was back home and I knew this, it would really bother me and I'd likely bring it up face to face rather than my fb failure.

I think you're right, especially the facebook thing shows how not at all serious she finds it, but I'm reluctant to just end the friendship entirely, as she's already surrounded by a bunch of yesmen who agree with this bullshit. People can't change if they're not educated, and though I don't think it'll be my primary…

Can't see the dog but already feel in love.

Happy birthday tomorrow!

I've dropped people for less too.... I think the fact that the friendship has lasted so long is playing into my "decision making" (if one could even call it that), but it really shouldn't because I just find her insufferable now...

Good points. I haven't really met people who are rude to service people, so was even more shocked when I went out with a professor - not just me but a group of students and the professor, and saw how rude and dismissive she was to the waiter. Totally unacceptable.

UGH. This is the worst. And yes so much underlying (or overt) sexism involved too. I think lack of humility in general is a huge turn off, but just the way of speaking so condescendingly has stuck with me as a deal breaker ever since whatshisface. Hope you've found someone who can respect your knowledge!

Haven't and not planning on it. You?

They need the Jews to be in Israel for the rapture. I can't really say if that's the whole reason for the love? I think in the US anyway it's far more political than that. I'm from a country that has Lutheranism as the State religion, and there is no where near the same kind of support for Israel there. But at least…

WTF! Also what was with HER crying? Likely because she wanted you to feel bad for her and not yell I assume? Think that was a bullshit manipulative move on her part. I can't really say anything that helps, except ugh that is terrible :(

I cannot stand condescension. This is the worst quality I can think of (other than really obvious ones like violent etc), having been in a relationship with someone who condescended no matter the context - grocery shopping? Lecture time. Arguments? Deconstructions about how my childhood had made me insecure and thus…

Apartment hunting can be so stressful and depressing. Hope you find something soon. I've had a lot of really bad experiences with landlords (inclduing assault), so I say even if it sucks it's worth it trying to find somewhere you're comfortable... If the landlord is an asshole to just a viewer he might be one to his…

Currently studying overseas, and realizing that one of my friends back home is the worst. Or at least very insufferable. It's all happening via technology too, and I miss the blissful days of not knowing this. She's a pretty close friend going back more than 10 years, but every picture she posts has these dumb racist…

Congratulations! Have not been married, and been to very few weddings, but the one I had the best time at was by far a very cheap one with little formalities.

I agree. I really dislike this show, but don't hate the player(s) hate the game. It's not an unreasonable amount for them to ask for given the way things are.

I used to think that too, but I'm a fellow low sex drive person, and have found that relationships can work fine without sex, even if the guy initially wants to more than I was up for. In my last relationship this was the case, then we both got STD tested together and the results took two weeks before they got back so…

Don't think you should feel guilty about that. It's how you feel and you shouldn't be forcing yourself into doing something you're uncomfortable with.