Curious when they'll be allowed to look their age though… I wonder whether the aging of hollywood is due in part to actresses consistently being kept looking 10 years younger than they are, and playing characters in that age range as well.

it's like telling a fat person they're fat and some people may not like that. No, you don't say!

WRT being grounded in reality… I believe it was Shaw who so famously said that progress is made by the unreasonable man. If you adjust your goals based on what other people have been allowed to do, you'll never be allowed to do more because you aren't even trying to—you're handicapping yourself. And encouraging your…

Same as how in a super sexist work environment women act horribly to each other: in a scarcity mindset where only one or a very few can 'win,' we all want to make sure we're one of the chosen few. Fix the system, and the behavior improves.

Emma Stone has had some leading roles—Easy A, The Help—that just didn't happen to be within the cutoff Forbes used. Mila Kunis on the other hand? The problem with making her a lead is that I'd have to listen to more of that voice and see her give that 100% blank stare over and over and over again. I just can't buy her…

I've often wondered whether the conversation about race stopped a little early in areas that are overall progressive and more equal. Like because we can all agree "racism is bad, mmmkay" that now everyone rushes so quickly to say "I'm no racist!" that there isn't the room to really have a conversation about those…

Agreed. My mother once yelled at a principal for trying to suspend me for tilting my chair back. I can't imagine the shitstorm she would have kicked up over being punished for reporting a rape.

This article really surprised me coming from Jezebel. If you substituted any other disadvantaged group for rural white southerners (try: rural black southerners, or the population of south central LA, or detroit), and talked the same amount of condescending shit about them that you just did, you'd be slapped with the…

I feel like you've forgotten that Jeff Foxworthy exists.

And he would and has said, these people will not go to heaven. They will be cast down with the rest of the criminals. If that's not discrimination, what is? Even myself not believing in all that, I just see it in the simplest terms of, he feels that he is deserving of a reward for being what he is (straight =…

Not only saying he's never seen racism personally, but explicitly describing a hierarchical situation in which black people are subservient—"Where we lived was all farmers. The blacks worked for the farmers."—and then claiming that's not a racist situation. I'll believe he's plain ignorant of many things, but if he's…

dangit. I was not prepared for crying at work this morning!!!

No worries, plus it actually made my point perfectly—trying to compare, quantify, and legitimize any one experience at the expense of another in some blanket way is a huge presumption. Our two experiences are so different, who's to say one of us is "right?" They just... Are what they are

That last sentence is exactly it. When something turns your world upside down, that's your trauma no matter what it is that caused it. I hope you find your peace eventually, and welcome to LA!

And this is why comparisons suck. For me, it's the other way around—my attacker changed the way I saw a world I had previously felt (probably a little too) safe in, while I knew my heart might get broken by anyone I trusted. We're all wired a little different, and trying to quantify in some generalized way just…

ehhh, I'll let the cancer kids tell me they don't want to be called heroes. If it feels good to them far be it from me to take it away.

I'm going to preface this by saying I'm not trying to play the one-lowmanship game. Go ahead and call yourself a survivor when you get out of a bad relationship that screwed with your head. Rock on, I have no beef with all that. You feel how you feel. I've been there and I get it.

The thing about that is, if they prosecute for manslaughter, the jury can't just go "no way, that was MURDER!" and convict him of something higher, but if they prosecute for murder, the jury is able to convict of a lesser charge so manslaughter's still on the table. It's a more scattershot approach, just seeing what…

now if only I could get my cat to stay still long enough to be that cute. Mine would be prodding at the fire like, "what is this? Is it cooking something delicious? ooh, a spark! I bet I can catch it!"

That version makes more sense (having an actual sleepover, but some kids leave early based on their own needs).