Can we not refer to women as bovines? kthanxbye

I feel like not being able to relate is something that's worth it for her to consider—after all, it's not exactly healthy for a couple to spend all their time in a bubble, and having your partner have zero overlap between you and his friends is a recipe for them to gang up against you, or for emotional affairs, etc.…

Yep. When I was 16 I was dating a 28 year old. We both worked at a big hardware store, and our biggest concerns were which manager was being a bitch or whether we got enough hours that week, and could we smoke some pot after work.

yeah, I would use this as an opportunity to get him to examine his life. Is he doing any grownup things, like embarking on a career or other exciting adventures? Because if he's the paint guy at the hardware store making minimum wage and stressing over not getting scheduled for the hours he likes best and the 17 year…

His marriage was certainly called a fake. It just seemed too much like manufactured perfection, and frankly a lot of people thought he was gay and Katie Holmes was his beard.

They also made her fingers longer and her palm smaller (can't have fatty hands on a magazine cover!), made her hair fuller up top and more controlled at the bottom, her eyes wider, removed bags from under them, moved her hairline forward, eliminated all draping from the blouse around her shoulder, slimmed down her…

ooh, how was that? Hubs and I wound up reading the book unexpectedly (airport pick, didn't pack enough books for long flights) and really liked it.

Seriously, I saw this and was just like, wasn't she about 10 years old last year? When did this happen?

It's solid, but well-paying? Mostly in benefits. Those gold-diggers could certainly be digging deeper if money was their motivator.

I'm not sure how it is at other school, but at my alma mater, the "multicultural" frats and sororities were not governed by the typical councils: Panhellenic for the sororities, IFC for the fraternities. Instead they were governed by the Diversity council. While Panhellenic and IFC have had to crack down on their…

I guess I'm glossing over it because I just don't want to accept that apparently it's predetermined that if you have the uterus, you get the short end of the stick. And yes, I'll admit it, I fully consider having to stay home with the kids the short end of the stick! I don't want to believe that because I'm a woman,…

And if there weren't a 25% pay gap between you and your wife, things could be different. The pay gap begets a greater pay gap. The current 7% pay gap will be taken into consideration in those women's families, and because of it they are more likely to stay home, then the pay gap will grow. It's great that you're…

no, I know what the ones who *aren't bothering to consider it* think about.

because 99.99% of men in the country are those "douchebags" you talk about. Ignoring the intensely gendered social conditioning that colors people's viewpoints is just silly. Otherwise feminist men still get really stuck on this point: they've never seen a man stay at home with his kid. They don't' want to look weak,…

Nice to know that you don't consider something that benefits you to be a problem. Big surprise, that one.

You keep repeating that women have children, women choose pregnancy, etc.

I'm all for it. The couple who lives next door is a working mom and stay-at-home dad. Every morning I see her in her power suit and him in a bathrobe with the baby, kissing goodbye, and think "Rock on stay at home dad, you give me so much hope."

It makes sense looking at it from the company's perspective on an individual, but what it adds up to across our society just underscores the lack of parity in expectations on parents. If men and women took that time off at a more equal rates because the expectations on how they raise children were more fair, then…

Even over one year, that would be hella nice. Over time, especially as you get older and get raises and that $4k becomes $5k, $10k, etc. that's the difference between paying off loans sooner, owning a home sooner, investing, saving for retirement, and by the time you get a few decades of that 7% difference under your…

It's still projection, it's just a well-informed projection :)