yeah, if I made 7% more, my student loans would be gone 2 years faster, and I'd own a home 3 years earlier than I am on track for now. In just a few short years this would impact my financial situation enormously.

I'm not the one who said I don't know why men do these things. Get off your high horse or direct your anger elsewhere please.

Because they're raised to squash emotions. They're teased or bullied for displaying them, told to "man up." They're taught that popularity, success, etc. hinge on the ability to bury their emotions.

My response to the theme one was, in my drollest voice, "It's not a high school prom, it's a wedding."

If bodily integrity were off the table, jobs would be a lot more important to me. That's an issue that men simply don't have to worry about the way we do.

Additionally, if you get the laws of our country and the laws of your church confused on the regular, I will not be voting for you, no matter how many soup kitchens you pose at or kittens you rescue.

I'll admit to this bias. The reason for me is largely my own self-consciousness. I don't want to feel larger than the guy I'm with—even if height it the primary reason for this, it makes me feel oversized (translation: fat).

And add to that she's a woman with a career already—how is she in particular supposed to relate to guys whose biggest responsibility is getting to math class on time?

I get where you're coming from, but am uncomfortable with the idea that it's ok to use your disability in one way but not in another… what about the rest of us just accepting that some disabled people manage to thrive and others don't?

Of course, because random internet commenters obviously know more than the person in question and her doctor about it. You should inform Ms. Boyle of your amazing insight into her condition immediately!

I hate that, because it feels dishonest to me. In my experience that I'm-not-really-being-a-bitch-here smiley always follows a sentence wherin the writer in fact did seem to be bitching.

I think you meant, "Heteronormative woman is asshole," because not all of us are.

My now-husband and I discussed it and were on the same page, but he's a traditional sort and had all this man-baggage about how he had to "do it right" that he wasn't prepared to put down, so he needed the traditional proposal. Then there were a couple months with apparent ring procurement malfunctions, etc. then he…

Then the people managing the press should have enforced that. When a reporter's told there aren't off-limits topics, you should expect them to go for that thing you don't really want to talk about, because it's their job. And if it's not fair game to the player, he should have a generic stock answer ready, like "My…

That lest sentence is the best. I think it should be a popup on twitter any time a writer hits the 140 character mark.

Exactly! Any lawyer who wrights like this "when u realize ur actions were improper u can make amends. Please write me a note to Jameis and his family to apologize." does not deserve to be taken seriously for a second.

whoa on the NSFW pics in here. Please put a disclaimer in the title!

Or because she is just truly a person who deals in extremely broad categories and makes no time for any level of nuance? I would have assumed that she didn't make that distinction because she doesn't know the difference.

I think I probably say this about 20x/week these days, but: most dichotomies are false. I think my broken record tendencies on this are a reflection of how publishers are increasingly oversimplifying issues and presenting extreme either/or situations to get reactions out of people.

I ultimately think that "needy" is code for, "you care about stupid stuff." When the other person gets your needs and respects them, then there's no issue. Neediness is in the eye of the beholder, and says as much about them as the person they're judging: ill-suited, time to move on.