My fave is Joanne Tucker’s gown -- it is exquisite.

I thinkNatalie Portman’s outfit, which includes a cape embroidered with the names of snubbed women directors, deserves more than an “it’s fine” brush off. 

Horrible for his kids, but I find it very hard to summon sympathy for this rapist son-of-a-bitch

RIP

Well, I grew up frightened and trapped, essentially, the scapegoat of an enormously fucked up narcissistic family, so LAT totally suits me. I’m extremely fearful of being stuck in a living space with someone who treats me shabbily, or worse. At bare minimum, I need my own bedroom, and some outside space like balcony…

At 51 I have yet to make the decision to marry anyone, but I have had the experience of living with a boyfriend, and sleeping together was the absolute worst. I will never, ever long-term share a bed with someone ever again. I’m not even sure I want to live in the same home with someone, as living on my own is FANTASTI…

Extra Credit Reading List:

Mostly he played nice for his parents (his folks are genuinely amazing), but we haven’t done ‘family’ Christmas for 3 years now. My uncle tried to guilt my dad into going this year, because my grandma likely won’t see Christmas 2020, but we’ll see her Boxing Day and avoid the toxic family.

Counterpoint: MCM can stay, so long as gut renovations of old homes end. First of all moldings are charming, they don’t clash with your sofa, second open floor concept homes are scams. If you have one or covet one you got conned. No one throws that many parties to warrant one, and then you have dirty dishes…

That’s so awful! My mom’s birthday is right before Christmas, and she always struggled with how overshadowed it got, so we always make an effort to celebrate it as something seperate from Christmas. I make sure the wrapping paper on the gift is explicitly birthday paper, and I usually give her a bigger gift for her…

Trigger Warning. Friends, I know it’s not even Saturday anymore but I am. in pain. I found out yesterday that my dogsitter took his own life. He was not really a friend, though I was very fond of him. There is an intimacy to the relationship as we entrusted him to take care of our home and our dog. He was kind and…

My step dad was born on Christmas day, and his 4 siblings are both a bit older than him and rude boomers. Every year at the family Christmas lunch, no one is allowed to refer to his birthday - he doesn’t get extra gifts or a cake. They also, every year, used to tell the story of how, because their mum had to go to…

Recycling this from last year: My dad never gave gifts to his kids, relying on Mom to pick something suitable “from both your father and I.” He wasn’t really interested in me or my life until he learned I was into Star Wars, which is literally the only thing we have in common. He got very excited when I came home from…

Sadly, as Eilish points out, there has never been a good speech at an award show.

This is one of those studies that is extremely important but, also ripe for mis-interpretation so some facts about the study, for everyone’s benefite:

Thank effing God Thanksgiving is over! My mean family gets turbo charged with negative holiday energy and always makes me feel unwanted and terrible about myself. Better thought: The Bartender and I are back from two weeks in Panama, and we definitely are planning on moving there early next year. We were all over…

I will share a good “alone on Thankgiving” story. At one of my previous jobs(grocery store), I was the newest hire so I got scheduled to work alone in my dept. on that day.I worked in the vitamin dept., so I wasn’t expecting too many customers. A lady came by and asked me if I was going to get to eat a Thanksgiving…

They believed in you and it really speaks to what they saw in you. Look at you now. You have a whole lot of people that are so thankful for you. Keep writing truth to power and we will continue to read, learn, and grow. 

Back when I was a baby reince, my father passed away suddenly from cancer. It came on very quickly and he was only sick for a couple months before he passed away. No one knew it was cancer until the autopsy. His doctor thought it was a bad flu. Needless to say it was extremely traumatic for our family to lose him so…

The last time I traveled for Thanksgiving was when we drove up to my uncle’s house when I was pregnant with my youngest child. We were a full two hours late because it took us almost 8 hours to get there in some of the worst traffic I have ever seen on Thanksgiving Day. I spent the entire drive with a pie on my lap,…