Why no friends with benefits? Because not Tom, Dick, Harriet, or Sally can handle sex without developing deeper emotional attachment. If either party isn't able to keep their end of the bargain regarding romantic interest, its a flawed approach for those two.

Uh, then that would be because you only know young people. While many people remain sexual until the days they die, plenty of marriages that were once romantic and sexual turn into non-sexual partnerships. Like, plenty like lots.

Ugggh I have been in a potential catfish friendship for years... Sometimes I try to blow it up completely but we always end up talking again.

In an in-person relationship, this would be controlling and borderline abusive behavior. In an online-only relationship, it's beyond suspicious.

Honestly, if you're at that point of needing that much verification, you're basically at the end of the "relationship" anyway.

Considering the number of celebrities and sports stars who've been taken in by catfishers, it's not terribly surprising.

Catfishing is basically a con, and smart, influential people are frequently the easiest to con. All it takes is desire. In the case of catfishing - the desire for connection with someone.

I have exactly the same. I come from a long relationship and soon after met a girl that I never expected to be with. She was too pretty for me, too skinny, too good looking etc. But we are happy together and I only once thought about the fact that my parents might've paid her to make me happy :P

the slimmer their presence on social media, the more suspicious you should be.

Even though I see my girlfriend and my sister with her husband confirm that she exists, I sometimes worry she's a hallucination and I'm really imagining my life in a padded cell somewhere because what's she doing with a slob like me?

Don't worry. At some point it happens to everyone.

Yes, this a hundred times.

I had a waitress pull me aside as I went to the bathroom. She asked me if I was okay, keeping an eye on my husband. I was baffled until I realized what she thought.

I think it comes down to skin. You have really, really nice skin.

I'm ugly, I don't wear makeup, but I get complimented on my looks. Usually by men who want to know how I got such big shoulders and calves. Or people who don't realize that my gigantic Anime character eyes look like this because I have glaucoma. Pff. Silly humans. Silly article.

I feel like we're talking past each other. Let's set me aside. There are lots of people in the world who virtually everyone would agree are just not pretty. They just got dealt a shitty hand. Maybe they have a really prominent brow ridge. Maybe they have a giant schnauzer. Maybe they have tiny beady eyes. Maybe they…

I think it's reasonably common — especially in South Korea (where cosmetic surgery in general is relatively common) and among trans ladies. Google it — it does make a huge difference to a person's face.

I suppose in theory (clearly from a physical perspective) that makes sense, but can it actually be safely done is what I mean, I suppose? I wonder how much such a procedure would cost, though more out of interest than any desire myself (I'm fucking scared of any non-necessary operation, like it's just bound to go…

Realizing I'm not pretty is not the same as being down on myself — not anymore than a woman's acknowledging that she's fat is being down on herself. (I do find it a bit alienating, though, when people reassure heavy women: "Your weight doesn't matter because you're so pretty!")

Truth be told, any woman would look amazing in a pencil skirt. I mean, c'mon, just look at how awesome they are:

That is very true. But you still get to decide how much you care. The more we play by the rules of patriarchy the less change we engender.