Another way to interpret the dream is to see it as an expression of your own creative force growing and developing. The baby in the dream is an aspect of yourself that is coming into being, perhaps as a consequence of your experiences in your romantic relationship or other significant relationships in your life. It’s…

And, pay attention to how other people tell you about their STI if they have one. If a new partner acts like their STI is no big deal to him/her and pressures you in any way to still have sex or refuses to engage in a conversation about how safe sex can be practiced so that STI won’t be transferred, that’s not…

I want to star you a thousand times. As a 50 something woman I can attest to the arrogant ignorance of a feminist youth in light of a more humble feminism in my older age. Gloria spoke plainly, and that does not dismiss the legitimacy of her point. Many young woman, many young FEMINIST women may still care about the…

Chris Rock is not in a difficult position. He is betraying no one by following through on his commitment to host. I feel pressure for all the white actors, entertainers, etc. who will be attending that event and pretending (acting!) as if nothing is amiss. They will be the public face of white ignorance for the…

The all white list of nominees reveals a very significant implicit bias on the part of the film industry (just like everywhere else, incidentally). Your comment suggests that you believe being “colorblind” and letting the best performance win is exactly how this sort of bias is perpetuated. If you are interested in…

Thank you. Someone had to say it!

Publicly outing him as an abuser may do more to protect women than bringing charges. I would imagine there are a lot of women who will take the information to heart and avoid him. On the other hand, there are women who will be taken in by his “poor me” story and feel special for sticking by him. That later scenario…

Good luck! You have an ambitious plan, and it sounds like you can actually do it with hard work and commitment. I feel inspired!!

There is a lot more to a person than their political attitudes, and Johari is acknowledging that. This is important in a civil society. It’s a good thing to have.

My close friend lost her husband only 9 months ago. I’ve spent a lot of time with her since then. I’ve learned the best question to begin a conversation is “What are you doing today (this morning, this evening).” She knows she can answer honestly (crying, writing) and we can begin a conversation that might go…

Have you ever heard of/seen the film “Southern Comfort” about Robert Eads? It is a wonderful documentary. The story has a lot of tragic moments, and so many beautiful, wonderful moments.

The dynamic you describe with BF and your GF, and BF’s other friends for that matter, sounds co-dependent to me. BF is all or nothing: not available, barely available and then-no boundaries-completely available (calling at 3:00 am, sleeping on the couch). If all needs are not met (e.g., going to a different…

Where did you grow up?

I love the Inspector Porfiry Petrovich Rostnikov series by Stuart Kaminsky. They really capture the socio-political dynamics of Soviet Union Russia during the seventies and eighties.

Next trip home be sure to pack large quantities of lube, condoms and a dildo (the bigger the better). People deserve to find things that scare them when they are looking into what is none of their business.

There is another dynamic to consider...He is a governor voted in on a midterm election cycle. The voter-base for the democrats usually don’t vote in midterm elections. He is in office because of committed, right-wing conservatives who vote in all elections and thus have candidates taking over local school boards,…

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I think the point, an important one, is that not all sexist behavior is equally toxic. The letter writer does not need to derail her relationship with this adviser. She can put on a loose-fitting shirt, get the benefit of the adviser’s guidance and support on her research, and move on to her excellent career. I think…

When I was 24 I spent almost 4 months traveling around Morocco. I went on my own, however I had a friend stationed in the Peace Corps there and I knew a Moroccan family through a previous relationship. I spent time with my friend, with the family, and then also stayed with different Peace Corps members, one of whom I…

Is the “cod” in codpiece in reference to “cod” the fish? And does that mean people were referring to male genitals as “cod” as in fish? This is what I have always wondered about codpieces...