@dearcoquette: ...wow, proofreading fail, sorry if this makes me sound straight-up drunk. promise I'm just, yknow, "multitasking" at work.

All the judging-a-book-by-its-cover aside, I reaaaaally don't like the fact that they're perpetuating our weird societal hang up on a woman's "number." For a lot of women, that red circle would have to be a lot bigger: 12 consensual partners, but 1 I wanted to fuck but he couldn't perform, tried miserably for an hour,…

huh. I agree with this article on the point that the "slut" label is, at its core, tied to the way in which women having and enjoying sex outside of traditional monogamous relationships can be disruptive to the big-picture, sociology class hetero-normative "social order." But I think she's wrong to imply that lesbian…

@kentuckienne: a LESBIAN VAMPIRE hair salon!!!!?!!? you should have your own network.

great article, but I wanna add: attractiveness can be a liability in non-male dominated workforces, too, which is maybe just an overstated way of saying it's hard out there for a pi......lady. I work in advancement, and the other day I had a long lunch with a potential donor where I kicked ass, if I do say so…

@Dekster: @roxie: I also think it's the way she's dressed. But that said, your boobs can still grow a little in your midtwenties—my bustline increased by 2 inches recently and I'm 23.

I think this a problem for MUCH more than just weddings. I'm semi-vegan (i.e. buy vegan food because that philosophy lines up well with my environmental beliefs, but if served a piece of meat that I know was ethically and environmentally-friendly..ly procured, sure, I'll eat a little of it.) I don't know that I'll…

@mass romantic: as a fellow nanny/babysitter: WORD. The challenges associated with being a stripper are obviously a different beast, since their work is implicitly sexual in nature, but a lot of the things she said about the entitlement and self aggrandizing associated with "clients" who "think that women should be…

@rocknrollunicorn: ...the fact that it plugs into the wall is the reason I bought it! triple A batteries are NOT cheap if you're at all, uh, regular in your habits, though I will concede that it's not my favorite vibrator to use with a partner if only because clotheslining can be a constant and hilarious risk. but…

@HRH Your Cuntness aka likepenguins: definitely, but I think the point Dodai was trying to raise was that it's NOT just her body when she gives birth to another human being that will likely suffer serious, bodily health problems because she's carrying pregnancies to term that may be against medical advice.

@bangers: It was my favorite part, too, but mostly because I DON'T have this group and desperately, desperately wish that I did. My friends all either have had sex with 5-6 people and have confessed this to me with really deep shame and self loathing, or they've been with one or two people and gotten engaged and are…

@Understater: YES! Exactly what I was thinking.

@cs1598: yeaaah I didn't love it either. I did finish it, in about 2 months (I read a lot and it usually takes me a week or two to finish a novel at the most, even long ones) but I found that it wasn't rewarding, even if it had its moments. I found the majority of the book too self-indulgent in its own…

@amowls: for real....I just edited down my friends list from 700 to 400, and I knew absolutely EVERYONE on there except for some random companies that I had "liked" at a suggestion of a friend and were suddenly added to my friends list. Between going to 2 colleges, a different highschool, middle and elementary school,…

@andBegorrah: ...except in the Clueless universe....

@SAtown-Hero: eh, I see what you were going for. thanks for reinforcing the idea that different kinds of bodies are attractive to different kinds of dudes. Like the girls above, I don't like being outright ogled either, but I think your point was that women of different shapes catch your eye, too, and I do appreciate…

@Hooplehead: oh, no, I DEFINITELY agree (and believe that I said) that "the system being dealt with and the bullies being punished are not mutually exclusive goals." However, I think creating an overly simplistic narrative of blame both in the courtroom and, probably more importantly, in the national media CAN hamper…

@Hooplehead: ...yeah, but I think there's more to it than that. If you accidentally killed someone with your car, someone SHOULD give a shit if you were never required to pass a test proving you'd learned how to drive it. Yes, you should be held responsible for your role in the death, but the system around you that…

@sensitivitycop: Exactly. But I'd wanna point out, too, that maybe Phoebe didn't even understand that HER actions would bring about her permenant demise. One detail that Anna didn't highlight that REALLY broke my heart was that Prince plugged in her cell phone just before she died, probably because she didn't…

@Araweelo: WORD. I'd love recommendations, too. But I wanna add—a lot of feminist porn/"porn for women" out there doesn't reeeeally do it for me either, for the exclusive and maybe shallow reason that the women involved aren't usually classically femme. I'm more femme personally, and I can kiiiiinda get into…