I don’t think that’s a better strategy because there are so many people in the world and a lot of them are good men.

Going out is a complete ‘nother story, though. Sometimes I go CRAZY with the makeup when I go out to a club, because it’s more fun for me. What in the world is your problem with Hot Topic? It sounds like you have a really narrow-band idea of what a woman should look like in public.

I wasn’t doing that. It’s a hard thought to express clearly - I’ll try again.

Shrimp hard to mess up? I guess if you like ‘em rubbery.

I think there’s a big fat lie out there that it’s only possible to get married at all if you subsume your personality to a man’s. Like, an implicit belief we get from culture. I have friends who do this shit all the time. I used to do this shit all the time, or at least try, but I could never make it work long-term…

Well, no, I don’t even know what gender you are. But in general, the way for a woman to look “presentable” in terms of attracting mates is to invest a lot more time, energy and money into her appearance than a man would. I’m a woman who keeps herself about as presentable as a man, and in doing so, I repel the…

Is that what they were saying, though? That could be interpreted as, “we can’t let them take our rights away now that we have them because if you think it’s bad now, it was MUCH worse back then.” That doesn’t make you less CREDIBLE as an activist, just like Black Lives Matter activists aren’t any less credible for the…

That’s kind of a Revelations way to go about dating. Too desperate for me. And it’s not like I’m a hobo, I just don’t wear makeup or do my hair unless it’s a special event.

It’s a dumb sexist joke, but....

AGH GOD not THIS woman.

Isn’t similar taste in music a good thing to have in common with a potential mate?

I’m presentable. Just as presentable as a man, in fact. Why should I have to work harder than they do? =)

Whoa. Backstabbing? I’m not sure what you.... this is advice for single women reading Jezebel. It’s damn good advice from my experience, too.

The Stepford gambit never seemed possible to me because of fatness and laziness and inability to keep my mouth shut when I felt passionate about something. So I only met possible right guy when I was 20 (I was too immature for that shizz, though) and later a couple different ones when I was 27-28. Which, when I spell…

Well yeah, now that you’re married, that’s all understandable. I should amend what I said to be, “it sounds like you used to be a hypocrite.”

People you haven’t met yet aren’t important.

That makes you sound like a hypocrite who has different expectations of himself than for the women he wants to be with. That’s a personal problem.

Yeah, that’s what I said. Wishing to get married in general is an AWFUL IDEA.

If you want to get married, it’s probably best (or at least more pragmatic) to look and act a certain way (that I think involves a handjob motion) if you’d like to signal worthiness to all the men in a one-mile radius. Is acknowledging this sexist or practical?

I have not vented about this before but I will vent about it now.