Best tag ever. I need to remember to read your tags always sometimes I forget when I became hung over.

Wait. I'm VERY confused. I thought his being German, like, from Germany, explained his shitty grammar. But he's saying his mama doesn't know how long she's been in America? Does that imply he was BORN IN AMERICA and this is just how he writes/talks? Am I missing something?

The thirst is strong in that one.

Sorry for drawing it out, this was like the dumbest Internet argument ever.

I claimed that the guy should have told his fiance about inviting his ex, not that she should necessarily have had veto power.

One of us has gotten married while the other has not. One of us has put together guest lists. From a purely practical standpoint, you can't invite someone to a wedding without your partner knowing about it beforehand unless your partner is not at all involved in the wedding planning: and if that's the case, find…

I was damn drunk when I wrote that. I should get drunk more often.

It's not about trust and edicts. It's about asking your partner if you can invite somebody you used to bang, BEFORE you invite that person... much less be a member of the wedding party. It's common courtesy.

This whole comment arena is predicated on the idea that people aren't always totally clear on what other people want or intend.

Because they used to BANG each other, homeslice. It's not necessarily true that the bride was the only one who had the pertinent information when it came to ordering the bridesmaids' dresses.

The groom needs approval to invite a previous romantic interest. That's gotta be written in stone somewhere.

The bride was in on it? Then yeah, it's shitty how she changed her mind. It wasn't clear from your original post that she knew the groom's ex was being invited to join the wedding party, and she wouldn't necessarily had to have been directly involved to order a bridesmaid's dress.

Better yet, DON'T demote them and DO punch them in the face.

Wow. Fuck her. Sorry. =/

That was really dumb of her to buy the dress in the first place without explicit approval by the bride-to-be. And really dumb of the groom to ask her to BE IN THE WEDDING PARTY without first clearing it with his fiancee.

My cousin asked to be in my wedding party after we'd decided on everybody. Uggggh.

Everything about your comment is perfect.

Nope! I meant women can use people sexually, too, and need to learn not to. Assault by women isn't as prevalent, going by anecdotes/police reports, etc., but it still happens.

I wasn't talking to you, douchebag.

I had a very similar issue happen this past summer: newly married, just starting to look at grad school, ticking biological clock... I was accepted to both schools I applied/auditioned at, but without funding, so I chose not to go, and now I'm really happy how things are working out.