The more people write and talk about this, the more hope I have. Linda Kay Klein’s book was the first thing I read that made me think, “I’m not alone.” Everything in this article and story: yes, yes, yes. I lived it. It’s so hard to explain to people how you can be in this situation. It sounds so crazy and obviously…

The newest episode of “The Rise and Fall of Mars Hill” podcast from Christianity Today talks about exactly this, and how Mark Driscoll peddled it in his megachurch. Pretty interesting/nauseating.

In the Bible belt Canadian city I lived in for a few years, one “player” co-worker loved dating Christian girls. He wasn’t even trying to be gross, he just told me as fact: “they all give blowjobs.”

Christianity is the greatest example of brain washing and voluntary slavery ever created. Religion truly poisons everything.

My mother summed this whole thing up in four words ..“(Uuch)...Men are such pigs”.

“Christy followed the rules at camp and stuck to a one-piece swimsuit, sometimes with a T-shirt coverup to protect the boys from temptation. Her North American Baptist church wasn’t extreme “

I mean, if I remember the movie correctly, Moses did drop a third tablet.

I had a (super-nice in that churchy way) classmate from high school who was an evangelical Christian and was definitely into the whole purity culture thing, as well the sort of gender roles endorsed by her church. Back when Facebook was a new thing, I remember seeing her post how much she loved the book Let Me Be a…

Not only is it bananas too expect that switch to flip, but what is the reaction if it does? I’m guessing a spouse raised in purity culture and the belief that a pure woman just has sex to please her husband will be very critical of a sex goddess wife.

That’s almost islamic-level “blame the victim”. I hope you’ve recovered; from the way you were treated, as well as the act itself.

“..there is no teaching of consent, safe sex, etc”

Andrea Dworkin got into a lot of trouble for saying that all sex in a patriarchy is rape. Essentially, she was right, because the power imbalance does not go away when you close the bedroom door. At the same time, we all carry the power imbalances that have damaged us inside of our psyches, and as some of the comments…

Stories like this, and crap like the poison spewed online by groups like "Joyful Patriarchy Wife" make me so damn glad I dumped evangelicalism as a teenager, and never looked back.

I was kicked out of the Christian school I attended and was lectured by my pastor after being raped at 15. My rapist went to the same school and they allowed him to finish his senior year via correspondence classes so he could graduate with his class through the school. I wasn’t offered any such opportunity. The…

Thank you for this comment. I was sincerely wondering about the ramifications of men being instructed to be rapists. It seems like most of them take the role just fine, but clearly that is not always the case. I haven’t been on dating apps for a while, but it seemed like a lot of folks were on there looking for a free…

“It cannot be understated how prevalent and powerful purity culture messaging was and is for *millions* of people in the Christian world. It’s not just the fundies.”

While my parents certainly had their share of challenges in their relationship before and after I came along, I’ve always been deeply grateful that they weren’t deeply religious or even very spiritual or whatever you want to call it. They were original hippies and I’m SO thankful that I was not indoctrinated with any…

I saw the results of purity culture firsthand about 8 years ago when I was on Tinder and the dating scene after years in a long term, consensual fun passionate sex-filled relationship. (We broke up for out-of-bedroom incompatibility issues).

I mean assuming you believe the Bible is accurate. God seems pretty nasty throughout it (genocide of the people in Cannan, death to every first born in Egypt whose home wasn’t marked with blood, allowing Job to be tormented just to prove his faith, Lots wife, etc).

It cannot be understated how prevalent and powerful purity culture messaging was and is for *millions* of people in the Christian world. It’s not just the fundies. Harris’s I Kissed Dating Goodbye sold millions, but was also recommended by youth pastors and parents and passed around as a new Bible.