Fair point.

A bit gross? I dunno, I think entitlement is generally more sinister than mere learned reactions but neither are good things.

No, they aren't. It's probably equal.

Well I suppose but I'd say being so entitled that you believe TV should at all time provide wank fodder is worse than having a visceral reaction to something you find gross.

I like both Girls and Looking and I'm glad they are progressive shows that deal with certain issues in a non dicdactic matter but I do find it depressing that no-one seems to notice that Boys starring Jorge Garcia wouldn't even make it past the initial pitch, hell it wouldn't even get that far.

My experience is the opposite in real life, I see far more slim men with overweight women than overweight men with slim women. Althought tbf that's not the sole criteria for being attractive.

No, that isn't the thinking (and I say this as a fan of Girls who doesn't care one way or the other about Dunham getting naked). The thinking is "ew gross fat person naked", there's no thoughts about beating off.

Haha, :),I got an email that someone else replied to another post on here today and saw some other replies I felt like responding to. I don't think your completely wrong btw I do think with intersectionality and all you've got to either consider every possible angle, right?

But as I made clear above I'm not deciding, that was said by a female friend who identifies as a sex positive feminist.
From my point of view (and I don't claim to be a feminist because as you demonstrate a) I'm a man and therefore not qualified to decide what it is or isn't and b) because people who say they are…

For it to be a valid position you'd need to consider it from all points of unequal power.

It's not particularly relevant, providing a cogent argument is being made to dismiss it on the grounds of it coming from a foreigner is be stupidly xenophobic.

But only if you forget that feminist thinking is (thankfully) very widespread in western nations giving the women who do consent to heterosexual sex the tools to discover how much of their desire to sleep with men is coerced and how much is natural and then consent on that basis.

"Nick Cave is one of the few I think who genuinely made that leap, and it's why he's survived 3 decades going from insane noise-punk (The Birthday Party / Boys next door), dirty rock and ballad crooner. From the mid 80s, he got himself an office, set it up with a piano, guitar, basic recording equipment etc, and would…

I'm not trying to be willfully awkward here though I know I can sometimes come across that way. I'm following through the implications of the idea that sometimes consent is coerced by external forces and isn't always 100% clear. First thing I'm hitting a wall on is the notion that somebody from a e.g lower class…

"And then she dies."

Pizza? You insensitive tool of the capitalist americo-centric patriarchy, that shit better be fair trade vegan or you might as well go bomb Vietnam again.

Ok, I was being a touch facetious in the last comment, apologies, I know you're not intentionally advocating for consent to be a grey area but it's the upshot of saying people can't act of their volition because of cultural and historical injustices, it means no sexual and/or romantic relationship can be considered…

It does relate imo, and the disclaimer above this article is a great example of it, the cisgender is a term employed when checking privilege, marking the cisgender person out as less worthy of having their opinions listened too.

Fundamentally I think insisting on proscribing who has the right to talk about what, and be taken seriously about it, will never work as a way to make social changes, language will change in reaction to improvements in circumstances.

I'm not saying the differences don't exist, I'm saying we should work toward them not mattering, part of that is using language in a more inclusive way in general.