If we believe in true equality (and I do, I'm sure you do too) then we only need to use the bare minimum of caveats, so on occasion there might be the need for someone to disclose they are straight or trans or whatever, in general it should not matter at all, insisting on differentiating only weakens bonds and makes…

But it is the default, giving it a label won't change that, what it's definitely not is any better or worse than any different configuration, by using cis or trans you're still labeling and separating and that's what invites value judgments because we live in a society that struggles with anything beyond a good/bad…

It would pretty much impossible actually, unless you also made Joe a bisexual or gay man, most of the film would be him just whacking off.

I think striving to make no person and no group the Other is a better goal.

"Your perspective suggests that you are "normal", and are therefore annoyed that they are somehow taking "normalcy" away from you."

Yeesh, if you want to try and make a case that consent is a grey area go ahead but that's pretty disgusting in all honesty.

Just checking because when I've said similar before I've been denigrated, by people saying they are feminists, for questioning them.

When I heard the same thing back from a pro porn feminist would it have been right for me to say she sounded like she was defining what was and what wasn't as feminist?

Wow, great great post.

Oh go no, I don't get to decide that, it's the pro porn feminists who've made me see why she's wrong about it and why it sullies her work.

Yep.

But it's also entirely irrelevant if both parties are consenting so yeh it's pretty much completely wrong at that level.

Or rather, you can't have emasculation without a firm idea of what makes you feel masculine.

You're a very poor feminist if you denigrate the choices women make which is what being an anti porn advocate means.

Good christ that's fucking brilliant.

I'd get certainly get a perverse sexual thrill out of eating Judy Greer, as it were.

We should really require everyone to carry a little card they can hold up detailing all of that, maybe even some symbols to save time.*

Well heterosexual is actually more fluid as sexuality is more of a spectrum than sex is.

But it's entirely self defeating because you're just going out of your way to make a hugely diverse group of people the Other. Which yes I know is why people do it but precisely because it's a hugely diverse set of people you are Othering it's not actually giving them a taste of their own medicine, to do that you'd…

Thank you HDB, I was seriously about to stop visiting this site if that disclaimer was part of editorial policy but seeing the second comment BTL pointing out everything wrong with it made me realise that even if there's far too much of this weirdly authoritarian streak running through much internet based left…