• Kewlbeanns, do you do any art? I have been dealing with this my whole life as well. I am multi-racial: read: North African, Eurasian. People look at me and want to catagorize immediately AND THEY CAN'T! So I get the suspicious, squinty-eyed looks. So, I decided to write a play with three other friends. We…

Caveat: This is based on MY life experience, I am a XX and do now wish to speak for XY's: You sound a lot like me in college. The truth is, I have found out in my life (much older than you!) that men are attracted to women who are alive, laughing and passionate about things. They also sometimes want what…

So..I'd like to talk about the punch drunk feeling. I know it well, it has happened twice in my life..one is going on right now. This happens as human beings. There is no shame in falling in love/lust with someone. I've known my guy for two years, been friends and flirted, but last month, he shook my hand, kissed…

Internet hugs, support and all around good thoughts to you. Shame, shame on your husband. Now, let's get practical y'all. You are going to need three professionals in your life right now, in addition to the good friends: A good attorney, a good therapist AND a good financial adviser preferably one who…

This was the topic of discussion in my Culture and Race graduate seminar last night. The students were horrified and only one had heard of the story. One student cleverly remarked, "oh, we take children away from loving dark skinned birth or adoptive parents and I work for Child Protective Services and see Caucasian…

Oh, and can someone tell me who Huck killed in the last scene? Why didn't Huck kill Papa Pope from Wonderland?

Team Drunk Mellie, evil Cyrus and David Rosen. If they are ANYWHERE doing ANY theater, Jezzies, post immediately. Also, anyone watch Olivia Pope being a badass judge on Project Runway last night? I so want to be her...fashionable and saving the world...

Prediction 2015-2020: Arya, Mellissande, Yara, Brienne, Margeory (actress), Khaleesee.

Thank you to all for the excellent advice! It's definitely better now.

Hair Nightmare! Help Jezzies...

Had a delicious creamy amazing chocolate malted milkshake yesterday. Yeah...it's okay to treat yourself once in a while..

I never get tired of "Into....

Wait, if I have a delicious coffee colored man, does that count?

Can I add to the multiculti convo? I am what people call an "ethnic" or "exotic" beauty. Curvy, dark curls, large dark eyes, prominent nose, full lips. I value my intelligence and accomplishments like any other Jezzie but wow.

Have you tried online meetings? I go to Al-Anon and have 2 favorite meetings in my area but when I can't make them I just go online. Try stepchat.com; the recoverygroup.org.

I know. Her writing is haunting on so many levels. I feel her sadness at the loss of her father, her realizations about her fiancee and the choices she makes each time she is pregnant. The conversation with her father's ghost in the garden!

Amble, be verrrrrry...careful. I'll tell you why. You know this: when you are in a relationship with an abuser, there is something call the cycle of abuse. They go from steady to abusive to highly abusive to incredibly sorry to sweet and loving to steady...

To be honest, when I first read that the family kept inviting you to events, I thought, "something is off." The truth is, we humans are tribal and we like sticking to our own. I was married for 20 years and incredibly close to my ex-mom in law. (May her soul be of blessed memory.) We laughed together, traveled…

I just finished Zadie Smith's "NW." Terrific observation and emotional story of a woman in a London neighborhood. Somewhat stream of consciousness...