This is a fantastic resource. After reading the comments I was thinking about reconnecting with my old therapist and calling in an emergency session but my insurance deductible hasn't been met for the year and the sessions are kind of pricey. Calling a hotline is a great idea.

No, it's okay. You didn't have all the information and you didn't say anything that I haven't already thought. Thanks for your follow up comment though. I do think that I'll end up talking about it with my boyfriend. It seems like a lot to try to keep a secret from him.

Well I only knew one other person there and had met the rest of the group that day. But you're right about my friend. I've been thinking all day about how little I want to see him for a while. We texted this morning and he's the one who told me about getting sick and leaving with the guy and I kept asking him how he…

Well we weren't at a bar. I went to an outdoor festival with a good friend of mine and this guy was in my friend's friend group. I literally can't remember a part of the day or night where I was ever alone with this guy. I'll be the first person to call myself naive about dangerous situations but we'd both been…

I have no idea. It seems like a pretty big secret to have to keep (ideally) forever. Honestly I've been thinking of it as "I cheated" all day long and hadn't stopped to consider that there was more to it than that.

Thank you for this. I have felt so shitty all day long and even created a burner because I didn't want to connect this incident with my regular screen name. You and the rest of the commenters have really, truly made me see what happened from a different perspective. Maybe I can take the pressure off of myself just a…

I don't think your brutal honesty sounds like a problem at all. And seriously, until I started getting replies to this comment my frame of mind has been "I cheated" not "I was taken advantage of". Changing that rhetoric makes the idea of telling my boyfriend a little less daunting. Thank you for your comment.

Physically, I'm fine. And thank you so much for your comment. It's the first time I've cried all day and I could use some catharsis. I think your suggestion about seeing a counselor is a good idea. Objectively, I know what happened is fucked up and I would never blame another woman if she was in this situation but I…

That's how I feel about it. Like, this whole thing is eating away at me and maybe telling him would make me feel better but I'm not sure that's fair. Also, I'm selfish too because I'm so scared he'll break up with me right before I'm supposed to move there.

No, we were in a group setting the entire day/night and the thought of getting with him never crossed my mind. Then all of a sudden I woke up in the middle of the night and he was in my bed and I made him leave immediately. The friend I was there with told me that he saw us making out right before I left and just…

I've been anxiously waiting for the open thread to be posted. I'm in dire need of objective advice.