Abusers are crafty like that, they seem like fine upstanding folks to everyone else, that’s part of the deal, usually. Even their abusees often say ‘well, he’s great most of the time, it’s just when he’s angry/drinking/both’. REDDEST OF RED FLAGS, AIGHT?

Unfortunately, this is one of the root failings of capitalism. It equates a person’s value and quality with their ability to work-especially in ways that generate capital. He was a “good guy” because he was useful and skilled, while no attention is paid to his other side, because we all know that someone’s emotional…

And I’m sure he didn’t leave her on the side of the road because he knew a good Samaritan would stop to help her. He thought the job was done and finished it when he got out of prison. 

These statements always confuse me as to how they can be so convincing to some. “That’s not the man I knew” Well, yeah. You obviously didn’t know him like you thought then. Thanks for proving the point that abusers aren’t what they seem.

I’m so sick of people and their “that is not the person I know” letters in support of abusers. Just stop the nonsense! Just because you never saw him beat anyone doesn’t mean he didn’t go home every night and put his family through hell. Just because he was a good friend to you doesn’t mean he can’t also abuse his…

Umm, hitting y0our partner, even in the middle of an argument, IS STILL ABUSE.

I’m trying to wrap my head around that vicious of a beating being described as “sometimes good people make bad decisions”. That’s insane. This wasn’t a heated argument where he told her to shut up and smacked her once, then immediately went “oh shit...I’m so sorry for doing that, I can’t believe I did that”. This guy…

If you find out that a man you know has beaten his partner this badly, I’m going to tell you something right now.

What strikes me about letters of recommendation like this is how they equate being educated, accomplished and skilled at a job with being a good person incapable of the crime! Or what those characteristics have to do with the capacity to abuse in one’s private life with their spouse?! I’m really diligent about filling…

If you need counseling to help you refrain from such horrendous acts of violence, you are beyond help.

It’s easier just to shun them all together.  I finally pulled the plug on that shit after 42 years and am having a wonderful thanksgiving at home with just my wife and kids.  Who the hell ever made it a rule you have to visit people you don’t like, just because of the randomness that you share some DNA?  By the way, I…

Amen. I’d much rather have my fam constantly trying to get me to co-sign car loans than whatever all the fuck this nonsense is.

Tell. All. Tammy. You win.

Viola is a living goddess with no need for such cleanses.

I hope that Barron has someone in his corner, someone who just loves him as he is. A nanny maybe, so that the seed of true empathy and insight inside of him can grow and blossom into his adulthood: in the dark, hidden away from all the narcissists that are his relatives. If he gets out with his humanity intact and…

“treat Melania like she is Pauline being held hostage by Donkey Kong and is just waiting for some heroic plumber to come along and save her.”

as with all things that negatively affect the well-being of women in America, black women are impacted more than others.

It’s becoming a cliché now, but this is what toxic masculinity looks like. I can’t have you, so you don’t deserve to live. It’s a pathology that afflicts men of all races and socioeconomic levels, however, as with all things that negatively affect the well-being of women in America, black women are impacted more than…

“...these are things men are doing to women”. Every. damn. day. We must keep illuminating the realities of women’s day to day lives. Otherwise:

Your message is so on point. Thank you.