You know, I like Jezebel. But if I were them—considering what happened, oh, just a day ago—I’d probably lay off the ethically-dubious assaults on people’s sexuality for at least a week or two.

What a mean spirited post. Some guy feels insecure about his appearance, and your answer is to write a rant at him about his privilege. Unbelievable.

I think it would be overly simplistic to describe it as “kill[ing] yourself over something a stranger says.” It’s maybe more like “hearing the same thing from all your friends and family, reflected in society at large, and in many cases internalized in your own beliefs.” A lot of trans kids aren’t going to be able to…

omg did you just solve depression? Mind blown.

People hate to hear it, but my abortion was heartbreaking and I fell into a pretty harsh depression afterwards. It was still the right choice, I would still do it over again if I had to. An abortion WAS pretty close to the last thing I wanted, but at that time in my life it was better than the alternative and I am…

Even if I had been older and more economically secure, I still would have had the abortion. I didn’t want to to be pregnant, didn’t want to give birth, and didn’t want a child. It’s more than 20 years later, and I still don’t want to have a baby.

IMO - The “abortion is the last/worst choice” argument needs to be stood down. It’s shopworn bullshit pushed on women to make them feel rotten about exercising their bodily autonomy.

I mean, I understand why it’s important to understand all that, BUT, I get really sick of people expecting an abortion to have all these confounding factors that make it less bad. It was absolutely not a decision of last resort for me - it was the easiest decision I ever made, and I felt actual joy and relief…

Nnnnnooooo, not for a great many of us. A great many women choose not to have children, or children at that time, and, when birth control fails, we abort. If anything, it is a decision of *second* resort, right after birth control that is effective. Having and raising a child is the last resort for us. I won’t speak…

LOL I would never ever ever ever have that child. Fuck that noise. But I was 32 and 100% knew I did not want kids. FUCK. THAT. Gawd, I was only pregnant for like six weeks but half of that was AWFUL.

My awesome Women Studies professor in college, when faced with the abortion question, just smiled at the token troll and said “If you want there to be fewer pregnancy terminations, then you should advocate for free childcare and work towards reducing the stigma on un-wed mothers.” mic drop. Love you, Prof. Roy!

I’m glad you made it out of the relationship and the procedure alive. Do you live somewhere with horrible access to a Planned Parenthood or other doctor?

All of my regret was linked to getting into the situation in the first place. I told myself I was smarter than that, I should have known better. The only remorse I ever felt was for myself. But then that made me feel guilty and selfish. I am older now, and I embrace my selfishness. No one else is going to do whats…

This is such a great way to put it. I got pregnant with a guy during a one-night stand. I was 25, barely making ends meet, and facing the prospect of raising a baby in a one-bedroom apartment that I shared with my rambunctious pitbull. Not a great environment.

You should regret none of it. You are a better person for all of it, if you ask me. It’s a tough lesson to learn, that you deserve better, but you learned it. Much love to you from Ohio.

mine told me if I ever left him he would find me and take a razor blade to my face, cutting me a new Heath Ledger sized smile (this was long before the movie but its a great reference). Then he laughed and said he was joking. He also said if I tried to leave his place he would set his dogs on me. Yeah, so I told that…

OH YEAH - AND FUCKING STICK AROUND AND RAISE IT AND PAY FOR COLLEGE. Great, now I need high blood pressure meds.

It’s a decision of last resort - if we had the economic or emotional support (or maturity or desire) to have that child, most of us would. That’s why I for one, get SO PISSED OFF when MEN think they should have a hand in the decision or think we need extra time, counseling WHATEVER. It’s infantilizing and insulting to…

I don’t regret mine. Especially since I ended my relationship with my ex and finally realized how abusive and controlling he was (told me he’d never marry me until I was less than 130 pounds. He monitored everything I ate and the 80 lbs I lost in the span of a few months still wasn’t enough for him). I don’t regret…