Are you kidding me? I don't even know where to start with you. First of all, she wrote an obituary, which needed to be written in the present. Also, if you think all of this crap doesn't affect someone's present then you certainly have not had to deal with any of this, or, you're in complete denial.

Petty? This poor women had to endure years of torment by her mother and you think it's petty to finally be able to express "my mother was evil and horrible and I'm glad she's dead"? When she was alive the fear probably stopped her children expressing themselves and once someone dies society dictates you be as nice as…

Yes, this! A quote I love, from Anthony Loyd’s memoir My War Gone By, I Miss It So: "Respect for the dead comes second to respect for the living, and I believe no man’s demise exempts him from culpability." I have no qualms with speaking ill of the dead if the dead deserve it, and Marianne Theresa Johnson-Reddick…

This woman was a monster. Monsters thrive in the dark.

No reason to speak ill of the dead, they can't hear you.

The funeral, as they say, is for the living. So I would argue, do whatever you have to to get the taint of the dead off you.

Psst, hey fat kids: you didn't hear it from me, but I hear shaving cream sprayed on car paint can really leave a permanent message, if you know what I mean. Also, did you know your local butcher will sell you all sorts of delightful organ meats in bulk? Maybe you have a local neighbor you'd like to share this fun…

So why doesn't she just hand out bags of low-sodium nuts or pomegranates or something that sends a healthy message? Or, much cheaper than that, she could just turn off her porch light and choose not to participate. But she wouldn't choose either of these options because her desire is to shame children for being…

Yes. Perfect. Carry on, you.

god bless shutterstock.

Oh please oh please oh please....

"the second primetime network drama since 1974 to star an African-American woman."

Is it possible for an infant to look like he's going to be King? Because this kid looks like he's going to be king. So, so cute, but I feel like I should be kneeling before him or something.

This stuff runs so deep - it's in the fabric of our culture, but it's also ingrained in the fabric of who we think we are. Hardwired and hidden under the hood, and the first time it even gets noticed is when someone is kicking the tires and opens the hood (i.e. brings up the question of name changing in relation to…

Oh, gross. I spent my ENTIRE engagement toiling and debating and going back and forth 10 times a day about whether I would keep my name or change it. I ended up taking my husband’s, simply because I like it more and it goes nicely with my first name, but I still feel the need to defend my reasoning. And I still cringe…

This is a really nuanced, well done piece. I'm glad you limited your attacks to the people making misogynistic comments, while separating it from the concept. It's okay for women to cook, as long as it's not expected because she's a woman! It's okay for women to take their husband's last name, as long as it's not…

I changed my entire name (last name including) because my great grandfather was a rapist and doesn't deserve notoriety off my achievements (first to go to college, not a sociopath, etc). I was determined to pave my own way, with my own name. My then-fiancé knew I wouldn't be taking his last name, and it took a lot of…

My husband and I have a long running joke that we will apply to anything in life.... "Once I finish making this spaghetti, I will finally be happy". "Once we paint that bedroom wall, I will finally be happy". "Once I get through this week at work, I will finally be happy."

The OP apparently missed the part where obie was put on a diet a pet food company designed & donated specifically for him. Also missed was the part where the dog received a specifically designed exercise regimen from a vet such as swimming to reduce his weight. and, the surgery the dog received was totally ignored by…

So all poor people have to do to be healthy and successful like you is quit one of their jobs and/or cut back on how much they work for pay, move to a commune, have said commune watch their kids, and then live off a bountiful garden? Wow. That's so astoundingly reasonable and accessible.