Sixteen, tan, blonde and wide open to the world. I loved Exile. I loved who I was when I was listening to it. I loved who I thought I would be and how much fun it would be to get there. If there is it a heaven, it's an alternative universe where I live out my Exile persona.

@visualdesperado: So you've got the tools (confidence), now you just have to learn how to use it. The trick is not to be demanding, but inquisitive. Don't take it personally. It's a game. Really try to understand it and win, rather actually getting what you deserve. Once you get that it's not about what you…

@PilgrimSoul: Really, no shit, it's a lot like that wacky book a while back 'the rules'. But you're not trying to snag a husband. I didn't read that book, but it sounded like it was a snazzed up version of playing hard to get.

@J.D.Regent: Ooh, but the best trick is a solid back up plan, 'cause you have to be prepared to leave or turn down an offer. With that kind of confidence, you will probably get what you want anyway. But women seem to have a 'stick to it' mentality that doesn't lend itself to this game. You have to have the 'fuck me…

@J.D.Regent: It's old boys club, but I read a zillion books on it and I'm a natural bull shitter too so it works out. It's a skill, but it's a learned skill. The best advice I ever received on negotiating is to be quiet. When you get an offer, just don't say anything. Take notes, if you have to keep busy. Do not…

@J.D.Regent: That's not true. Quite a bit of it is confidence, so you seem to already be at a disadvantage. No irony intended, but you need balls. I was increase an offer by 20%. People fucking low ball you. It's a used car salesman world out there.

@J.D.Regent: I agree with you. You'd think that with coverage, social acknowledgment and time for reform that this issue would be exhausted. But it seems to just be running in place. And it directly effects every woman's quality of life.

I wonder if it does have something to do with the industry. I work in a male dominated industry and make equal pay. I'm very good at negotiations, a skill often taught to men.

@lolacat(ΩΜ): It's not a frown. It's a fist.

@nellicat: @ronaldpagan: @SedateMe:

You've GOT to get an intro from the mother herself: Judy Blume.

@boss_lady: Holy Crap! Where is that girl's mother??? Or friends? Or .... sense?!?

@ExtensionOfBob: Clothes sticking to me in the summer is a big no-no. I def don't want it to be intentional. But I live in Hotlanta.

God I'm so glad I don't have pictures of my back fat on the web.

Wow. She could do soooo much better.

@Sunbunny: My dog attacks intolerance. He's savior to all overwrought, mentally disabled zealots, bringing bliss to ignorance and armed with stinky breath and magical poop. He's Agnostic Pooch! To the rescue!

@misssgolightly: @erinna:

These fringe groups treat men like they are dogs, helpless to their instincts and always needing to mark their spot.

Is it cold in NY? Why is she wearing what looks to be the hottest jeans ever? And high tops? My ankles are sweating just thinking about it.

I. don't. understand.