Again, that’s YOU making an assumption about them. That they aren’t looking for women their age. Plenty of us are not looking for dramatically younger women AND want to start a family.

But that’s the point, settling for someone, or a relationship, where there’s a failure to communicate, or a failure to have common values or a common commitment to contributing to the relationship.

Sure, it’s true men get started thinking about it later, and that’s largely because our value, according to society, is based on how good our career is and how much money we make to be able to be a provider for the family. So many of us focused on our career, both for our own sakes, but also because that’s part of how…

Yep, and that’s the guy that women will date.

But that’s the problem- a lot of those successful, available guys are out fucking around, not looking for anything serious because they can.

So two. And yet you generalize that to the rest when the other guys are like: I want to find someone before I’m too old to care for my kids the rest of my life. And yet he gets shit for that?

Guy says: “I want to be there for my kids their entire life.”

That seems like sound advice, which is the same approach that I’m taking as far as finding a partner to settle down with. So I don’t get the insistence from many here that you need to CUT the amount of time yu spend with someone before getting married.

Why are you assuming they aren’t thinking about that? I’m in my mid-30s, and myself and all of the single guys I know my age are factoring in all of these things. But the MOST important factor is finding a partner that will work for us and will be a good parent herself. Holding out for that is far better than just…

How many bof them said they must date someone younger? Wasn’t it just one? You seem to be amaking an awful lot of assumptions there.

What attitude that they’re voicing? They’re all concerned about being in a similar situation, but they aren’t all voicing the same attitude. Some are negatively placing blame on others or aren’t keeping realistic expectations. Others just seem frustrated that they can’t find someone they would like to settle down with.

In that case, you do you!

I think part of it depends on how a person ends up in this sort of situation. If it’s men or women like the Lee guy that feel they are entitled to either some young woman or a guy making a certain salary, then it’s their own entltiement that’s the problem. They aren’t nopen to trying to have a relationship with people…

And yet women have the same thing. We shouldn’t feel sorry for them either. We’re all in the same boat. It’s not like the dating pool is better for women than it is for men. It’s just LOOKS different when you’re on the other side looking for someone. But the other side is 50% of the population. One 50% doesn’t look…

But this is exactly the entitled attitude that this piece shows is bogus. You’re acting the same wqay that some of these guys are: the idea that there’s no one good out there. It’s the OTHER gender’s fault and not your own.

I don’t know why this was worth an NYT piece. People looking for love isn’t exactly anything new. And a lot of these guys seem like douches who aren’t even really looking for something meaningful.

The comments are questioning her punishment. For fucking rape.

But this is different though. This is a woman. So of course folks here want to give her special treatment.

Crazies like that think it doesn’t matter that it wasn’t true, what matters is it could have (or even should have) been true. Because it fits their narrative.

Exactly. And we cannot in any way hold women accountable for the horrible shit they do. Never mind that she catfished some guy she was into, and then made up this whole story that impacted, in a very public way, the lives of many real people.